San Valentine is it worthy?

Hi everyone,

tomorrow is the day … yes San Valentine.

Is it worthy?

I mean is it still worthy to celebrate it?

What does it really mean?

Can a day take the place of the relationship in its whole? Can be happiness and joy and gifts concentrated just in silly recurrent dates during the years?

Is a relationship just the spark of one day?

Just the passion of a few hours? Just the joy of giving and receiving and spending happy time together only and truly one day per year?

I think that if there are not 364 days where a couple is happy, there is no point to celebrate just one day out of 365.

If there is no real care, attention, love, joy, time together, gifts, attention …

San Valentine can be true only if it is not just one day, but if it is the remembrance of all the days of the year, all life that is a true real presence in each other’s existence.

And a presence is necessary, is needed, is the true consequence of a pure feeling, love, that just wants to feel that soul near, no matter what, no matter physical distance, no matter material stuff. A closeness, natural necessity, that is being truly in love.

Souls connected, souls bound with a chain that does not need to be made, but exists by itself.

Because love is free. Love is freedom, Is a free choice. Being free to love. And living a feeling. Letting the other people know where the heart is, what matters.

We live in societies where image is more important than essence. Appeareance is more important than soul and inner self. Feelings. Pushed away, hidden, shut down.

To love is to be free to make the soul express itself. Love is being a presence, love is living when not just your only life matters, but someone else’s becomes a priority.

Love is the essence of existence. Our being here on this planet.

San Valentine should be the celebration of pure love. That magic soul connection that needs no explainations, and no approval, but the heart’s. Love is a feeling that cannot be asked or pretended. Just is.

And when two souls meet each other and find a bound, then nothing else matters. Not even a silly celebration of a day, because love is beyond space and time, is above everything.

A day will not make the difference if there is just appearance and formal celebrations. Meaningless.

On the contrary if love exists, San Valentine will not change anything, it will be just another day to remember what is a daily permanent soul condition: being in love.

So I wish you all HAPPY SAN VALENTINE DAY.

Live it not as the last one, nor as the first one, or a spot one. Live it as the day of the days. Where love is not just one day. Love is a commitment that goese beyond, a presence that is not just for one day, but always, with the souls bound and never ever apart. When being is the essence. Love is not a tag or a label to write in a card with a rose or some chocolate. Love is being in someone else’s life with no way to think of our own life without that person. Love is an added meaning to our existence.

Share love, share your feelings, be a presence and not an absence. Because every human being can survive alone, but when there is another person in our existence the meanings change, the purpose changes, and colors appear, and light shines everywhere, from within a song from the heart.

LOVE. Be happy.

All the best to you all.

Happy celebrations and when you say “I love you”, truly mean it.

Love can only be true.

Take care

 

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Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara