21st of March world-wide day against RACISM

21st of March

Hi everyone.

Why today?

Today is the international day AGAINST RACISM. Yes. Sadly 2019 and we still have to deal with racism.

Rosa Parker did not live in vain. Martin Luther King had a dream that still is not reality, because still today people discriminate because of the color of the skin. Such a shame!

And people still go on speaking about races! How comes! Even Luca Cavalli Sforza, scientifically proved that it is impossible and very wrong also from the scientific point of view to speak about races in plural. There is only ONE HUMAN RACE, only one. We all come from the same group, we descend all from same anchestors. And even in the DNA we are all alike. We are all big mixtures.

So sad.

And as a consquence of this racism we face terrorist events like the one in New Zealand where 50 innocent people lost their lives because of a crazy white supremacist terrorist!

We are all one big family in this planet, called humanity!

And it is such a shame that people hide behind religion to justify killings.

All religions speak about love and peace. Terrorist have no religion! No one is allowed to kill in the name of a faith! Because all religions say it very clearly: killing is a crime, a crime against humanity!

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And I love the responsa #Jacinda #Arden gave as New Zealand Prime Minister.

We do not even have to pronounce the name of the terrorists. They must not become famous, as they would like to be. Who we must remember name by name are the victims. Children, innocent lives taken in the name of what? Madness.

As Martin Luther King was saying, we must all learn to live as brothers, as we are, or we will all perish as fools.

So the message today is to stop discriminating: we are all equal!

All the same in dignity and respect we must give and get!

No one should consider himself superior! There is no superior religion. No right and wrong religion. No one is pure and the others impure. We are ALL EQUAL!

True equality!

Stop judging! Each person is doing his personal pathway of growth. And faith is something that cannot be forced or imposed.

Faith should just be shown in our life as an example: we must be good people.

We will all be judged in the end about the love we had given. Nothing else matters. Nor the money, nor the power, nor the cars or the jewels.

Love.

And today is also the international day of poetry.

And not just this, today our brothers in India, and not just in India, celebrate the festivity of HOLI. The festivity of colors!

So happy Holi to everyone celebrating it!

Life is beautiful because of its colors.

And we all have the right to live and shine in this world. Same rights. Same dignity. Same respect!

And remember all, life is short: we must live it in the name of love. Nothing else matters!

Stop chasing material things.

Start giving. Because true happiness comes from giving.

Today give a smile, give your positive energy and vibes to the planet.

We must start making a better world with ourselves.

Put away all negativity and anger. Forgivness. Start anew with a fresh new hope, that if we all spread the light we can fight this darkness of racism and discriminations and hate!

A big hug to you all.

Melt your heart. Do not keep it closed and hardened.

Open it! Let the light and beauty of love come in. Forgive who hurts you. Love must be stronger than hate. No revenge. Love. Love and love only.

Every moment that goes away is time that will never come back. Life is so short.

Do not waste your hours in anger. Forgive. Forget. Build bonds of love. With everyone and especially those who hate who are the ones who need love the most. Remind them that only in love we can find true peace. Only loving we can be truly happy and give a real meaning to our existence.

And I am so ashamed about my current government here in Italy. Racist. Crazy.

Please spread messages worldwide. Salvini is the one who must go home, not the poor immigrants who arrive here escaping from war and hunger!

And we have European elections in May. Today we are all with European flags.

Because we must stay in Europe. And our Europe is not the Europe of Orban, is nto the Europe that Putin dreams to control. Is the Europe of rights and freedom. Is the Europe of true democracy where journalists are not put in jail because of what they say and because they speak the truth. Is the Europe where a couple where two men love each other has the right of holding hands and being together in a marriage. Rainbow families exist. And not like in Russian repressions and killings in Cecenia …

Europe is and should be the home for human rights for all. Because there should be no discriminations and free true democracy ruling each country. Not dictatorships run by power and corruptions and mafia.

So please we all must stop together these far right extremists and movements who want to go agains women rights, against human rights, against the environment and the planet.

The world is our home.

We all must stand to make it a better place in the name of love that must unite us, and not separate us. Unite us and not discirminate.

All together, no matter the color of the skin, the sex or the sexual orientation, the faith.

WE ARE ALL EQUAL.

And we must start building a better place to live from today. Today we must start a big fight against this increasing racism, homophobia, Islamophobia, xenophobia….

Love. Peace.

WE ARE JUST ONE

And even in our little realities we must put in practice this true equality, every day.

We must be the change we would like to see in the world.

Now!

Life is now!

 

Stay strong in the name of LOVE

A big hug to all

Take care

 

Barbara

 

 

 

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8 th of March: women first?

Two days ago: WOMEN’S DAY. But what is it? What does it mean now in 2019?

What does it mean today to be a FEMINIST?

I guess the best reply is in a sign that has been shown in a march:

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This is the point: to be a true feminist means recognizing that a women is a person, with own value and not because she is someone’s mother or daughter or sister or wife. This is the essence of everything.

Because the definition of a women is that a women is a person!

with same rights as a men!

Same dreams of career, self growth, goals as a man.

A women does not dream just a family and children! And some do not want children or family and it is ok as well, or want a family but work and career too.

This is what should be understood by everyone! We deserve freedom to chose our own life and if we want a career and a family as well, it should be possible! No one should sacrifice their own life and future and studies! Ambitions, dreams must not be killed by anyone. And in this freedom we all deserve worldwide, there is also the freedom of chosing who to marry. Freedom for our destiny, freedom of indipendency, economically and not only economically. The possibility to live alone even if we haven’t found the right partner, or the possibility of living together with someone before getting married to get to know each other and see compatibility.

And stop to child marriage!

As adults women deserve same rights and freedom as men. Same!

And discriminations must stop!

As well as growing women playing with dolls and boys with cars. Dance for girls and football for boys! This is rubbish!

Each person should be free to play and do what they do like!

There are still too many prejudices and discriminations.

But above all worldwide women should be free and in charge of their own life!

And one last word for an orrific inhuman practice: infibulation. Worldwide we must stop this orrific violence against girls. Inhuman and prohibited but still done.

If you go on Wikipedia you can get enough info if you do not know what is it this abomination.

WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT AND THE DUTY TO STAND FOR WHAT IS RIGHT, no matter what.

And we all must fight for a real and truly EQUAL WORLD.

True equalilty and no gender discrimination.

And another last note about the LGBT community. Each person deserves respect, and must be recognized in same dignity.

The struggle is for all countries where people must fake their own identity and love because otherwise they would be prosecuted and even killed. Shame!

We are in 2019. And all people must be accepted and not judged.

WE ARE EQUAL IN RIGHTS AND DIGNITY AND RESPECT we deserve.

And whoever considers himself superior because of religion or sex, or sexual orientation or country of origin, or birth place or status or color of the skin is simply not right and not human.

HUMANITY is recognizing we are brothers, all at the same level of dignity and respect that we must receive. No one is superior, no one is right and the others are wrong. Each person has their own way in this life, their own pathway. Different pathways, but no one should ever judge! There is no right or perfect religion, there is no right or wrong sexual orientation, there is no right or wrong color of the skin …

Discriminations must stop! Now!

And the 8th of March is to remind us all that we really all deserve true equality, not just women, but all.

Let’s make this planet a better place by stop judging and starting understanding, stop preaching and start listening and then maybe advice or speak but remembering that things like religion or sexual orientations are private matters, and no one should ever been judged or discriminated for that.

And stop seeing women in the house and men at work! The house is for both! Both cooking, both cleaning, both growing kids. These prejudices about roles are ancient!

So the 8th of March is for all of this, and not just for one day, we must stand up for what is right every single day starting from our own life, in every gesture or thing we do.

Women WE DESERVE RESPECT AND SAME RIGHTS AS MEN! SAME!

All the best to all of you, in all your personal or social struggles.

WE ARE IN CHARGE OF CHANGING THIS WORLD NOW. WE ARE WRITING THE HISTORY NOW!

 

Take care

See you soon

Barbara

 

Lilac ribbon- 15th of March 2017 National day for Dca (= eating disorders in Italy)

Hi again …

Today 15th of March 2017 an article that I said to myself I had to write.

Why?

Because I am explaining you if you read the following lines …

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Today is the National day for the “eating disorders”. Lilac ribbon.

What does this mean?

It means that there are still too many people on this planet that are suffering for eating disorders.

Fashion has a big responsibility in this. Because the idea, the ideal model for “high fashion” has to have a size that cannot go above certain very strict standards.

Bra size, hips … lots of restrictions that sometimes go against each single person natural shape, not considering extra kilos but just the body shape.

Newspapers are still filled by articles of girls killing themselves just because they do stop eating, or they eat and then they force themselves to throw out all of what they’ve just taken in … because they see themselves too fat, where on the contrary are just skeletons.

And it exists also the opposite situation: not being able to stop eating, so putting on so much weight, not even being able to have a normal life with all related also heart and circulation issues and critical health conditions.

But there are not just these extreme terrible cases, majority of eating disorders could be at different levels, not to risk life, but enough to ruin a good relationship with food, making it not a pleasure moment but a punishment in both ways when we decide not to eat or when we force ourselves to eat too much and even after having stopped the starving feeling.

But why?

Do we really want to be who we are not?

Can we all possibly become as thin as those magazine models?

Is this our reality?

Or the model is it the perfect blond with even lips that do not look natural, a Playboy doll style?

What is it beauty?

What are we looking for? Who is the model we dream to look like?

Are we happy of our life? Or are media just showing a perfection that is just a mask?

And is a perfect looking body the real key for success and happiness in life?

Or is it just a way to attract the wrong people who will look for us just for it, our body, and not for who we really are?

The only way to have a good relationship with our body is to be in peace with ourselves. Starting from accepting ourselves, who we are, and also our external look.

Of course we are called to take care of our body as well of our soul: mens sana in corpore sano is the Latin famous sentence: a healthy mind in healthy body.

But do we have to become paranoid about our body? Pushing everything over the limit? I am thinking also about all gym addicted people …

Too much is too much in everything.

Balance. To find a balance mainly within ourselves.

I want to remind you all that to look beautiful the best way is to wear a true smile. And where does it come from? From the within peace of mind.

How can we find it? Where do we get it from?

Nowhere. It has to start and come within ourselves: realizing that nobody is perfect, not even life, nor ourselves. So we have to accept what we cannot change, and even for what concerns changes we are not switches, everything needs its time, so we cannot pretend too much, we have to be patient and accept what we cannot change and work on what we can work on, and most of all start from loving ourselves, even with our past mistakes, with our limits …

And I am telling you this because I have learned it.

When I was younger at university I was free but lonely. Knowing lots of people but sometimes having the feeling of having no one really caring for me. Alone for the first time in another city for studying. Freedom. Nobody preparing the dinner for you, so no food “rules”.

I was working also as PR in the city university evening parties and discos. I wanted to be and look perfect: so I was going to the swimming pool, fasting, skipping dinner, arriving at the disco where I was supposed to spend all evening with public relation with other university students … I was smiling, speaking with everyone, checking that the evening was going fine, having my list at the entrance …

The apparently very nice life: I was able also to get free drinks, nothing to pay, just to enjoy myself talking with everyone and going around the place. Nothing special but what else may a university student want from the evenings outside? People, music, free drinks …

Well to tell you the truth, I was going back home and opening the fridge! Anything: I am not ashamed to say it now, because I hope it will help who at the moment is in the same situation I was at the time. Simply completely unhappy about myself and my life, just wanting to look perfectly beautiful and ok from outside, but inside actually “screaming” because I was not living a life I was really happy about.

And the food was the punishment because I was not able to be enough slim, because my size has never dropped below a certain level: I am like this, but I could not accept it having a different idea in my mind of what I wanted to look like, like someone who wasn’t me.

I think we only have to tend to be the best version of ourselves. Not copying anyone, not wanting to look like anyone else, just to be ourselves at our best. So of course fit, and healthy with no extra kilos as a weight, but without becoming crazy about perfection. It does not exist and it will not make ourselves happy anyway.

I think even media give us a wrong example. Women to be attractive have to wear heels and short skirts, and breast showing tops and so on …

Absolutely not! We are women because we are women, not due to what we wear.

And even the idea of being sexy. What is it? We do not have to attract sex, but we must follow and look for only true love.

So being loved for who we are, and not for what we look like. For our soul, not for our body.

Of course we do have a body as well, but we do not have to forget that it is not the most important part of ourselves.

Our soul must be beautiful.

And even sport has to be a pleasant activity to get fit and in harmony with our body, not like a medicine to push up muscles in perfect sculpted shape.

So today let’s start our own fashion looking at the our real self, as Christina Aguilera song “Beautiful”.

And let’s work to get the best out of ourselves, not with wrong models or ideas, but just with the love we always must have for ourselves, because first rule if we want to love someone else and we want to be loved, is to be able to love truly ourselves always everyday starting from the mirror morning first look.

So no more food punishments.

Food has to be a necessary good pleasure, with an healthy balance diet especially in quantities that makes the real difference.

Being in peace with ourselves is the first step for being in peace also with all the rest of the planet.

So let’s start now a new beginning with a new glance in the mirror, not to judge us and punish us, but to love us and take care of ourselves.

We all have to improve ourselves and grow but it can be done only with real true love, and this way will do everything for us and not against us, and it will be a pathway we will enjoy to follow, with maybe little results day by day, but definitely with a different purpose and awareness, a true beautiful shining peace of mind.

And I finish just reminding you that stress helps in most cases just to put on weight! And increases our food disorders. So deep breath, a couple more hugs with who really loves us and cares about us in our life, and let’s go!

Life is here waiting! It has just started, we are in!

Let’s live it the best, and always always always only OUR WAY! Life is one and is just ours! Do not waste ourselves. Let’s take care of ourselves from now on every single moment.

We are the changement. We can find only inside ourselves true happiness: it cannot come from outside.

Let’s love life, because life is beautiful.

Never to give up!

 

Thanks for reading me and see you next!