Racism is a crime

Hi everyone,

I am writing this post because I do really feel the urge to speak up for what’s going on in these days in Minneapolis.

We all read the news, and we’ve all seen the awful and shameful video and heard about the following death of George Floyd. RIP. And today the arrest of reporters and journalists!

We are in 2020 and honestly this is not acceptable. And not just in US. Everywhere.

I will never get tired repeating that science had proved it! We all belong to only ONE human RACE. I invite you to read the studies done by Luca Cavalli Sforza. Einstein also confirmed it. And we all should know it, but people, especially in United States still go on speaking about races! We are not dogs or horses! We are human beings, and as persons, science has proved it, studying our DNA and DNA differences that races do not exist! There is only ONE HUMAN RACE.

So I would take this occasion also to invite all you Americans to ask for the abolition of the word “races” and “race” from papers, any paper or documents. Because it is simply nonsense. We are all mixtures on this planet and you cannot divide people because of the color of their skin and shades of color or any other nonsense! Take for instance the example of Indila (Adila Sedraïa) the singer (I have her first album and it is stunning) she was born in Paris and she is of Algerian, Egyptian, Indian and Cambodian descent and she speaks French, English, Arabic and Hindi!

You cannot put people into cages and labels!

Millions of people cannot be idenitified in one specific nationality! Myself also going backward from my father side, I go back to Nice and France! So yes I am Italian but also belong the world. We all belong to this world! And the color of the skin is like the color of the hair or of the eyes. It means nothing, seriously, scientifically speaking.

And going backward and backward … I remind you that continents were attached. We all descend from the same group of people. This is science and hystory even if some people prefer to think otherwise.

So we must all condemn racism and any behaviour that is due to this shameful idea that some people are superior to others or better, or different … Wrong!

We are all equal on this planet and we all deserve same respect, and we do all have same dignity!

So condemning all forms of racisms I invite you to do the same.

Any discrimination is wrong. Remember this.

We all must build a world as Martin Luther King was dreaming, where character is what makes the difference, not the colour of the skin.

We are all equal. And we must apply this statement every day in our daily lives. Condemning all abuses, even just verbal abuses and offenses.

And also we must condemn violence.

Remeber, as Martin Luther King was saying: as darkness cannot fight darkness, and only light can do, we must oppose to racism love and equality and not another racism in the opposite way.

Let’s make this world a better place.

Starting from the “man in the mirror”. Ourselves. Let’s change anger into compassion. Hate into understanding. Violence into education and dialogue.

A big hug to you all.

Take care of yourself and always spread love, forgivness and compassion.

 

love

 

 

 

Ashes Wednesday

Dear all,

today is Ashes Wednesday,

so for all of you who are celebrating … I wish you a happy beginning of this Lent season.

The 40 days before Easter.

A period of reflection, of self improvement and some sacrifices to do, maybe something we can avoid, some food habits we can change … and a soul recharging and rebirth.

Just to arrive well prepared to the Holy Easter. This year Easter will be on the 12th of April.

So still just the beginning of this Lent to start.

But I would like you all to take a moment to reflect.

Today with the Ashes Wednesday, we remind us all that we are going to go back to ashes one day.

So it is very important to reflect about our own life in a very humble way.

What are we seeking in this life? Money? Power? Success?

None of these things could truly give us real happiness.

Only love can. Only true love is able to enrich our souls. Love to give, love to share, love to have in our hearts also and especially in response to people who throw hate to us, who insult us, who show no respect.

Easy to reply to hate with hate, but to reply with love is the real challenge. Not to argue back, but replying with compassion and true love is the challenge.

Love your enimy. This is what Jesus asked us.

And when people question our religion, Jesus said that the only way people will spot our faith is through love (not from a cross or any other pointless dress code). From the love we will share, people will know we are Jesus disciples.

Because love is the essence of Christian religion.

Only one commandment Jesus gave us:

To love God with all our heart, soul and mind, and love our neighbor, as we love ourselves.

Full stop. All starts and ends with love. With love as the only rule for each of our behaviors.

And, as Martin Luther Kings reminded us, the only way to scatter darkness, is not with other darkness, but with light. Same with hate: only love can truly win hate. Always.

Love is stronger than anything else. Love will have the last word.

And it is fear that makes all so difficult everytime. Fear as the opposite of love. Win it with love.

And love is the love of compassion and understanding. Love is the love of forgivness and care.

Because we are all children of God on this planet. We all belong to only one human race. One race only.

So let’s together stop all hate and discriminations around. None of us is superior or better. We are all on a personal pathway in this life.

Let us become the better versions of ourselves.

Be good, do good. And it will all come back in return in a life of true happiness when the true joy comes from giving.

Take care you all

God bless you all

Happy Ashes Wednesday and beginning of Lent.

 

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All the best

Barbara

New Year, New Life

Dear all,

Happy 2020!

Sorry I’ve been a bit absent here, because life sometimes takes away the biggest part of our time … I mean living. And not stopping thinking what we are actually going through. Not stopping to think about life, the weird thing we are in, and we cannot escape from. But we can change it, and we are 100% in charge of it. We are adults. No more parents who should tell us what to do and who to be. And we’re lucky to be in societies where this truly happens. Where parents are just your friends, the best ones you could have, giving you advice, but you are a free person, an adult, with no need to follow their advice, even if sometimes they are right.

So I was just messy, messed up with my whole life. Heart issues also.

Also working, but sadly back unemployed now, so money issues too.

It is always like this. When there are issues in our lives, they are about everything, everywhere, not just in one part of it. So job, love … All together.

Anyway.

I also will be presenting my novel in the Turin Feltrinelli (piazza Castello) on the 30th of January at 6pm, you are all invited (in Italian only, we are at its third edition, already 2 literary prizes winner). Looking for agents outside Italy and also a bigger publisher for a second novel I still have it unpublished.

Every issue is a challenge, every challenge is a chance for growing, learning, improving, moving on and forward. Yes because we cannot stay still and stuck. And destiny in this is clever to always surprise us, in good or bad ways. So that our lives have to move on, one step forward, with or without our will, but we move on. We must.

And what we cannot change, we must just accept it.

Life is made of choices. Sometimes we chose right, sometimes we chose wrong. We make mistakes. Many. We fall. We wake back up again. Then we fall again, then we rise again.

We hurt and we get hurt. We heal. We forgive and forget and we are forgiven and forgotten. Some people are meant to stay for our whole life in our lives, some are not. Some are just sparkles in the night that burn out too quickly and too soon, to disappear. Some are flames that keep us warm, no matter what.

Life’s miracle is this: life is unpredictable, and everything can happen in a minute. Gains and losses. Winning or losing everything in a blink of an eye.

But we must be, always. Ourselves. Even when it hurts. Even when we would like just to disappear and fade away when all seems nonsense. Because miracles happen. And the unexpected happens. Beautiful things do happen anytime in our lives. We must just be patient. To wait. Not to settle for the wrong choices. Not to give up too quickly.

Nothing is permanet. Not even our pain. It will go away. We will heal. With time.

Time is always such a blessing. We are so lucky still to have it. Time for changing. Time for living. And time for loving ourselves. Because this is where we all should start from: ourselves.

If we do not love ourselves. If we do not forgive our mistakes, how are we supposed to be able to love the others?

We must love ourselves first, and then love others as much as we love ourselves but we cannot do the other way round. It is difficult to pour from an empty bottle.

We all do mistakes. We all are not perfect. So life starts from self understanding, self love, self care, true care and self forgivness.

So what will be new for this 2020?

Well, we all have new chapters of our life to write.

New pages to turn, and to draw, to write a new story, ours.

So do not try to copy anyone. Each of our life is different, and we all must make it a masterpiece.

So we start today, day 1. We have 365 pages to write.

No regrets. No worries. And stop caring about what other people will think, because everyone will judge us anyway. They will always say bad things about us we never did. Gossip is this. Do not care about it. Whatever they say, let them speak. You know who you are, and what you’ve done and what is in your heart and soul. So do not let anyone else dare speaking for you. Your life. Your choices, your mistakes and your steps forward in this pathway that should lead us all to the best version of ourselves. And self knowledge and awareness. Be self confident. Focus on yourself. Your life, your happiness. And when we will get inner peace, all will be looking different. But all starts from within. And remember only when the water is still, it is possible to see the bottom of the surface. Stirring the water will not make us see clear within ourselves.

Silence. Meditation. Knowing who we are. Then the world should just watch and stare.

It is our life. Now or never.

Let’s live it the fullest. And let’s make it just ours.

No regrets.

Looking forward, always.

Take care all of you

Thanks for reading me

All the best for this 2020

Strong big hug to you all, wherever you are.

And remember, at the end of the day we will be judged on the love we have spread and given. So let yourself be filled with true love to share, to multiply.

Love is always the key and the answer to everything. Let’s put it in all the things we do.

Living for love, in the name of love, every single gesture. And everything will find back its meaning. Because this is what we are alive for.

To love, to give, to be alive only when love lives in our heart.

Find also time this new year to make peace, to ask for forgivness, to forgive and forget the pain. Love wins always.

Love for ourselves, love for our Ethernal Creator, love for all mankind. We are all brothers in this little planet. Do not forget it.

Stay filled with love. Stay blessed.

Be yourself always.

#love #life #be #world #loving #living

 

 

 

 

 

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21st of March world-wide day against RACISM

21st of March

Hi everyone.

Why today?

Today is the international day AGAINST RACISM. Yes. Sadly 2019 and we still have to deal with racism.

Rosa Parker did not live in vain. Martin Luther King had a dream that still is not reality, because still today people discriminate because of the color of the skin. Such a shame!

And people still go on speaking about races! How comes! Even Luca Cavalli Sforza, scientifically proved that it is impossible and very wrong also from the scientific point of view to speak about races in plural. There is only ONE HUMAN RACE, only one. We all come from the same group, we descend all from same anchestors. And even in the DNA we are all alike. We are all big mixtures.

So sad.

And as a consquence of this racism we face terrorist events like the one in New Zealand where 50 innocent people lost their lives because of a crazy white supremacist terrorist!

We are all one big family in this planet, called humanity!

And it is such a shame that people hide behind religion to justify killings.

All religions speak about love and peace. Terrorist have no religion! No one is allowed to kill in the name of a faith! Because all religions say it very clearly: killing is a crime, a crime against humanity!

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And I love the responsa #Jacinda #Arden gave as New Zealand Prime Minister.

We do not even have to pronounce the name of the terrorists. They must not become famous, as they would like to be. Who we must remember name by name are the victims. Children, innocent lives taken in the name of what? Madness.

As Martin Luther King was saying, we must all learn to live as brothers, as we are, or we will all perish as fools.

So the message today is to stop discriminating: we are all equal!

All the same in dignity and respect we must give and get!

No one should consider himself superior! There is no superior religion. No right and wrong religion. No one is pure and the others impure. We are ALL EQUAL!

True equality!

Stop judging! Each person is doing his personal pathway of growth. And faith is something that cannot be forced or imposed.

Faith should just be shown in our life as an example: we must be good people.

We will all be judged in the end about the love we had given. Nothing else matters. Nor the money, nor the power, nor the cars or the jewels.

Love.

And today is also the international day of poetry.

And not just this, today our brothers in India, and not just in India, celebrate the festivity of HOLI. The festivity of colors!

So happy Holi to everyone celebrating it!

Life is beautiful because of its colors.

And we all have the right to live and shine in this world. Same rights. Same dignity. Same respect!

And remember all, life is short: we must live it in the name of love. Nothing else matters!

Stop chasing material things.

Start giving. Because true happiness comes from giving.

Today give a smile, give your positive energy and vibes to the planet.

We must start making a better world with ourselves.

Put away all negativity and anger. Forgivness. Start anew with a fresh new hope, that if we all spread the light we can fight this darkness of racism and discriminations and hate!

A big hug to you all.

Melt your heart. Do not keep it closed and hardened.

Open it! Let the light and beauty of love come in. Forgive who hurts you. Love must be stronger than hate. No revenge. Love. Love and love only.

Every moment that goes away is time that will never come back. Life is so short.

Do not waste your hours in anger. Forgive. Forget. Build bonds of love. With everyone and especially those who hate who are the ones who need love the most. Remind them that only in love we can find true peace. Only loving we can be truly happy and give a real meaning to our existence.

And I am so ashamed about my current government here in Italy. Racist. Crazy.

Please spread messages worldwide. Salvini is the one who must go home, not the poor immigrants who arrive here escaping from war and hunger!

And we have European elections in May. Today we are all with European flags.

Because we must stay in Europe. And our Europe is not the Europe of Orban, is nto the Europe that Putin dreams to control. Is the Europe of rights and freedom. Is the Europe of true democracy where journalists are not put in jail because of what they say and because they speak the truth. Is the Europe where a couple where two men love each other has the right of holding hands and being together in a marriage. Rainbow families exist. And not like in Russian repressions and killings in Cecenia …

Europe is and should be the home for human rights for all. Because there should be no discriminations and free true democracy ruling each country. Not dictatorships run by power and corruptions and mafia.

So please we all must stop together these far right extremists and movements who want to go agains women rights, against human rights, against the environment and the planet.

The world is our home.

We all must stand to make it a better place in the name of love that must unite us, and not separate us. Unite us and not discirminate.

All together, no matter the color of the skin, the sex or the sexual orientation, the faith.

WE ARE ALL EQUAL.

And we must start building a better place to live from today. Today we must start a big fight against this increasing racism, homophobia, Islamophobia, xenophobia….

Love. Peace.

WE ARE JUST ONE

And even in our little realities we must put in practice this true equality, every day.

We must be the change we would like to see in the world.

Now!

Life is now!

 

Stay strong in the name of LOVE

A big hug to all

Take care

 

Barbara

 

 

 

San Valentine is it worthy?

Hi everyone,

tomorrow is the day … yes San Valentine.

Is it worthy?

I mean is it still worthy to celebrate it?

What does it really mean?

Can a day take the place of the relationship in its whole? Can be happiness and joy and gifts concentrated just in silly recurrent dates during the years?

Is a relationship just the spark of one day?

Just the passion of a few hours? Just the joy of giving and receiving and spending happy time together only and truly one day per year?

I think that if there are not 364 days where a couple is happy, there is no point to celebrate just one day out of 365.

If there is no real care, attention, love, joy, time together, gifts, attention …

San Valentine can be true only if it is not just one day, but if it is the remembrance of all the days of the year, all life that is a true real presence in each other’s existence.

And a presence is necessary, is needed, is the true consequence of a pure feeling, love, that just wants to feel that soul near, no matter what, no matter physical distance, no matter material stuff. A closeness, natural necessity, that is being truly in love.

Souls connected, souls bound with a chain that does not need to be made, but exists by itself.

Because love is free. Love is freedom, Is a free choice. Being free to love. And living a feeling. Letting the other people know where the heart is, what matters.

We live in societies where image is more important than essence. Appeareance is more important than soul and inner self. Feelings. Pushed away, hidden, shut down.

To love is to be free to make the soul express itself. Love is being a presence, love is living when not just your only life matters, but someone else’s becomes a priority.

Love is the essence of existence. Our being here on this planet.

San Valentine should be the celebration of pure love. That magic soul connection that needs no explainations, and no approval, but the heart’s. Love is a feeling that cannot be asked or pretended. Just is.

And when two souls meet each other and find a bound, then nothing else matters. Not even a silly celebration of a day, because love is beyond space and time, is above everything.

A day will not make the difference if there is just appearance and formal celebrations. Meaningless.

On the contrary if love exists, San Valentine will not change anything, it will be just another day to remember what is a daily permanent soul condition: being in love.

So I wish you all HAPPY SAN VALENTINE DAY.

Live it not as the last one, nor as the first one, or a spot one. Live it as the day of the days. Where love is not just one day. Love is a commitment that goese beyond, a presence that is not just for one day, but always, with the souls bound and never ever apart. When being is the essence. Love is not a tag or a label to write in a card with a rose or some chocolate. Love is being in someone else’s life with no way to think of our own life without that person. Love is an added meaning to our existence.

Share love, share your feelings, be a presence and not an absence. Because every human being can survive alone, but when there is another person in our existence the meanings change, the purpose changes, and colors appear, and light shines everywhere, from within a song from the heart.

LOVE. Be happy.

All the best to you all.

Happy celebrations and when you say “I love you”, truly mean it.

Love can only be true.

Take care

 

Never Revenge, let Karma do its job

Hi everyone,

this morning a topic that might look banal but actually is not.

We are living in a world and in societies where more and more people seek revenge.

People who have been hurted or wronged have this crazy need of revenge, of getting something back, as if it could decrease the pain they feel, seeing someone else suffering.

Where is compassion?

Once a damage has been done it cannot be taken back!

So what is the point of punishing someone. Would you really feel better, feeling like “justice done”?

An eye for an eye?

Honor?

No. I am sorry but it does not work like this. If you have a little bit of heart you cannot be happy and enjoy seeing another human being suffer, not even if they did you wrong.

Leave to God the judgment. And by the way He is Endless Mercy, so …

It is so mean to wish bad luck to the others, to want revenge, to wish pain. This will not make us feel any better. Deep down how can you be happy of other people pain?

As Dalai Lama never stops advising, we all must seek compassion. And for who hurted us Karma does its job, not us.

And personally I think that the best wish is to hope they could realize the mistake they did and the pain they caused and feel consequently sorry for it. Repentance. And then forgivness, asking for forgivness and forgiving who did us wrong.

We all live and learn and make mistakes. We all must move forward. We all must forgive and apologize. And move on.

Painful but there is only one way to grow: through experiences that teach us more than hundred words.

So stop replying to anger with anger. Stop giving back hate to hate.

As Martin Luther King was saying:

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.

Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

So let us reply with love and compassion to those who hurt us. Because who hates is the one who most needs love. Who is angry is the one who most needs compassion.

To hate and hurt is pointless.

If you start filling your soul with love, love to spread to everyone, you will begin to see colors again in this world.

We are here to love each other. And the purpose in life is to love. Material stuff won’t last. Only love moves on and is immortal, as our soul that needs love to be fed.

Start with loving yourself, forgiving your mistakes, letting go, moving on from the past where no one can anymore live.

Breathe. We are alive and this is already the most beautiful gift we should be thankful for.

Let us do not waste a single day. Every day should be a new chance to love, to give, to feel. We are here for being alive for real. Following our heart and what really matters. People and not objects. Love and not material richness or power.

Stop using people and wanting things. We must do the opposite.

Respect to everyone. Never consider yourself superior to anyone. We are all alike in this planet and we will all go back to ashes, not with gold or material richnesses or any of our belongings with us.

What is material will perish. Only love will survive and remain even when we will not anyomore be on this planet.

Becuase only love is ethernal.

Seek for souls, not for bodies.

Love people in their deep inner essence, and make connections based on true feelings that could last. True friendships. True love.

Life is short. Do not waste it in crazy revenge and hate.

Make your soul free from bad energies. Fill it with love and positivity and sunshine.

Love is and will be the answer always.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara

 

 

 

2019 New Beginning

Happy New Year to everyone! Happy beginning of 2019!!!!

I truly wish this 2019 will be for everyone a turning point year.

I am turning 40 now in January on the 9th. Yes, just numbers, but still … now is the time for me to start living and stop just existing.

Life is now, life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans.

We must take risks, face challenges … live.

Going out from our comfort zone is difficult because it is scary. The unknown is scary. But who wants to live with regrets of what if? What if?

Making mistakes, falling … are part of the journey.

We all must become the best version of ourselves.

People think the competition is against the others: actually is withing ourselves. Our own doubts and fears and worries to be won.

A beautiful sunny morning. Sunshine. What we all need.

And we are all called here to make this planet a better place, so stop the hate, stop the judging. Nobody is perfect, and we are not here to change the others, but to accept everyone and love them for who they are, making everyone realize that there is no right or wrong, no good religion or bad religion, no saints and no sinners, no pure and impure people. We all have same dignity, same rights and deserve the same respect.

Men and women are the same, we all are the same. And we all must go on in the struggle to give everywhere on earth same rights, same dignity same possibilities of chosing our own life to everyone. A women will never be an object, and just a wife or a mother. Same dreams, same careers, same rights to follow our own dreams, decide the life we want to live, who we want to live it with …

And gays or transgender people exist. The LGBT community cannot be ignored or cancelled. They have same rights to be, to dream, to live, to build a rainbow family, where family is and always will be a place of love, a place of the heart where two or more people just share part of their life in a unity that knows no limits of geography, no limits of gender. Real true equality because love exists and deserves to be.

God created each of us, and who is born gay deserves to live the life they want and feel.

Stop pretending to fit everyone in boxes society would like to keep. No one can be put in a box, or marked with just a label. We are all different individuals with our own story, mind and heart. Unique. A masterpiece.

We all deserve to be let shine our own light.

Life is now, life is for everyone because we all belong to this mother earth. This planet we must also take care of.

We are all one big family called humanity. If people will not get this, there will always be wars. We are all bound because we are all children of the same Creator who gave us the freedom to live and be, ourselves, with our gifts and talent to be used, not wasted, with our heart to love, be loved, feel.

We are here. We are alive. Let’s live for real. Not imaging a life that is not there, but creating and making the life the way we feel it and want to live it.

Freedom for everyone. Same rights. Same respect. Same dignity. We are all the same.

Let us make this 2019 the year of unity for this planet, to help who is less lucky, to help who is in need. Because there will never be walls able to separate what God has created: humanity. Only one race, only one planet.

Let us all embrace, a big hug together because we are all the same, all human, alive to live and love.

Life without love is just nonsense. The purpose we are here for is to love all mankind, all Nature and wherever we will be we will always be home, because our home is this planet.

Let us make it a true home for everyone.

A big hug to all of you.

Shine, and do not let anyone steal away your smile. We are alive: the first and main reason to be going on shining. Let our soul sing a song that is the true energy of life. Being alive.

Bloom. Share light and

Love is what will be able to fight darkness and hate. Love is the only weapon that truly wins.

Love is and always will be the answer for everything.

Take care you all

Be blessed, and always walk in the light, shining with the candle of love burning inside our soul. Give love to everyone and it will come back in unexpected ways, because love is the magic of our existence.

Shine. Give. Life is a giving. And joy will be in the giving always. And the more love you give the more you will have in your heart, because love is infinity and who lives of love lives forever.

Life is now. No regrets

Hi everyone,

yes … I know. A while I am not writing here.

The reason is always the same: time and inspiration.

But today I would like to share with you what is resounding inside me so loudly at the moment.

I am sure each of you is struggling with something. Personally it is months that I am struggling with my job. To find one first after I left my previous ones, the last longer was end of June, and then little things, and now one already renewed twice but still not sure about how it will go on and if it will. My contract expires on the 14th of October, rental to pay, expenses … so many … my car …

Then you know I have my novel in the book shops, still struggling to be known and read. Yes, it is not enough to have published a book, the most difficult part of it is after. Marketing, events, promotions … And I do not have money to invest in it. We are at the second edition but still I remain pretty much unknown everywhere.

I would need money to correct and arrange my English translation of the novel, but I do not have the money necessary to do it.

So for now just published in Italy in Italian. I need to find a literary agent for abroad to find a publisher outiside Italy for its English version …

So my struggles are these, leaving on the side my personal life which is actually quite much tough at the moment as well.

So all of us, we find ourselves from time to time like stuck in moments of life where directions need to be taken and decisions as well about next steps. And we are a kind of lost thinking of where we will end up in our future.

Well, I would like to say that it is very human. Even now that I am almost 40 years old, I still do not know where exactly I am moving to. What will be my next life steps and decisions.

It is very human to feel lost and sometimes even broken at the same time, but we all must remember that we are here to give a meaning to our existence, and we are not just alive to survive but to live, fully and making our life worth living it with goals to achieve and dreams to follow, never giving up.

I think fear of failure is the worst judge we might have. But we must try. Take risks, maybe calculated ones, but still jump out from our comfort zone.

And we have to stop caring about other people’s judgments. Society is getting worst and worst in this. I think people are just jealous and envy of what you got.

It is not easy not to let bad energy touch you inside, but we must ignore the anger empty hearted people throw at us. We have to focus on the good in every situation and spread good energy even when it is rare or when we are given negativity as a gift.

So this post is a best of luck to everyone like me who is struggling in life.

Stop asking for approval! Just start living your life the way you want it. It is yours and nobody has the right to judge you. With honesty and a pure heart, good intentions toward everyone, and the goal to improve ourselves everyday.

If we start walking the distance will be shorter from our dream goal.

But we must start moving. Little steps. Days fly away and still we do nothing. We cannot expect anything to change if we go on doing the same things every day.

So let’s start move on. Little steps forward in the direction of building what we dream of. Doing what our eyes are sparkling for.

Passion is the only energy that we need to put in all we do. Let us live fully every single second of our existence, a time that will never come back, moments that are just now or never.

No regrets.

Just life to be lived fully now. And we do not have to delay, to say tomorrow. We start today to be fully ourselves with no regrets. Our life, just ours. And we will realize that happiness is the peace we have inside when we have no more conflicts between what we do and what we feel.

Let us be true to ourselves first. And let us be, as Ghandi was saying, the change we would like to see in the world.

Only in the name of the truth we can live an authentic life.

And yes, we can.

Take care of yourself all of you.

Move away negativity and negative people from your life and soul.

Be in peace inside you first.

And let’s move on.

Best of luck to all of you, and stop worrying. Life will give you the answers you need. Just have faith.

Thanks for reading me and I would need you support.

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Thanks again to you all.

Advice welcome

Also feel free to ask me advice

Take care

 

Barbara

 

 

 

EQUALITY

I apologize for my absence here, but you know what is the political situation now in Italy: a shame. And also because of this I felt the need to write you now this post.

I have a question for everyone: WHAT IS REAL EQUALITY?

The world still needs to truly know and put in practice this word for real worldwide.

Because there is no real democracy if there is no real equality. And what is real equality? It is the real equality of each person in front of the law. The law the same for everyone with no discriminations man or women, gay or transgender, Muslim, Catholic, Jewish … No discriminations at all, of any kind.

We all should be equal in front of the law as it is stated for instance in our Constitution, with no discrimination of religion, sex, sexual orientation, color of the skin …

But unfortunately we are facing two different realities on the planet.

Here in Italy, where these principles are stated but sometimes not applied and put in practice by people. We are facing an horrific increase of crimes with racial involvements. When the only race for everyone is human race, but some people, due also to our new government fear campaign, are now not respecting this basic principle of real equality of human beings. So some people have been assaulted, and we had also death episodes in the past, just because of the color of the skin or ethnicity. The scandal raised also in Europe watching our country going more and more extremist and far right in decisions, also not to receive the boats with immigrants that were risking their lives in the sea … And we are responsible of so many lives lost in the Mediterrenean if we could have been able not to give this immigrations in the hands of the mafia, but creating real human corridors, for people to come legally here and have the assistance they deserve because they are running away from war, persecution, starvation … The solution would never be just to send these people back because migrations have always been part of human history and cannot be stopped.

And the second reality I am talking about is in those places on earth where real equality is not respected by the states themselves and by their laws. Where because of religion discriminations people are not given jobs, where because women they are not paid the same as men, where because of sexual orientation people are discriminated, and even jailed or killed in some states of the planet.

I mean where is real equality?

Does it matter if a person has a different skin color, or worships a different religion, or falls in love with another human being maybe of the same sex?

Does this influence laws or how people are or should be treated?

Yes. Unfortunately people in 2018 worldwide are still discriminated for the color of their skin, for their religion, for their sexual orientation.

With no respect for real equality.

It is so sad. And the fault of all this?

Who encourages discriminations and hate, and mainly the lack of culture and education.

Yes, because studying the world history we would discover that there is no elected people, everyone is the same to one another because we all descend from the same ancestors coming back from what was before one single continent.

We would discover that Jesus had dark skin.

We would have discovered omosexuality has always existed, in all society and you cannot stop what is not a personal choice but a peculiarity of the person, not a free choice, but a way of being. And actually it exists also in nature in the natural life in the animals world.

Also animals, if you see them, they attack when they feel in danger. Human beings are the only ones who are able of evil behaviors just for the sake of it. So for no reason discriminations and attacks to who is different just because of differences, and not even because of real dangers.

People think of immigrations as invasions: they are not. Even states are conventions. Borders are a human creation. But everyone is building walls starting from their inner soul.

Why in 2018 the world is not able to have people living in peace together? Money and power.

And above all, why we are not able to live in real equality in all laws and relationships?

The answer is always the same: money, power. There are so many interests in these behaviors.

When a population is in economical difficulities, it is easier to find a target, an enemy to be accused of all disgraces. Like it was for the Jewish in the Second World War. They were also rich, and they were just an obstacle for more money and more power in the minds of all those sick people who got involved in one of the biggest shames of the planet history.

So fear. I guess fear is the reason why people are not able to accept and put in practice real equality principles. Weakness. Not enough self esteem to accept confrontations.

But the real strenght is in the peace of mind of being themselves. Thinking with their own head. Being free in the soul even before than in the body.

But it is easier for all dictatorships to controll the masses with just orders, they do not have to think with their own mind. Keeping people obiedient because of fear so that they will never complain or try to change things.

Making people fighting with each other not to see bigger issues above or aroud them. It is always a distraction.

When in the world people will start to realize that is not a matter of a war between people who are right and people who are wrong, and there is no necessity to change anyone because we all should be accepted for who we are. Confrontations, opinions should be free. People are afraid of opinions because maybe they can make people realize things from different point of view. And people maybe can change their opinions.

Only God is perfect. We are human, and no one can say to be perfect or to have the real Truth about everything.

And when people will stop to feel superior to the others or just right and the others wrong. When we will put aside judgments. Then we will be truly able to start a real genuine peaceful cohexistence where we can all learn and enrich ourselves from each other.

The world is beautiful because of its variety. Colors. We cannot put people into boxes to define them. Each individual is unique and in its uniqueness needs to be respected and should always have the same rights and duties as all the others.

Let’s make this planet a better world.

Let’s stop the judgment and the sentences. People should be free to be themselves, always. And real justice is when people are really never ever discriminated or treated differently: man or women, gay or straight, Muslim or Jewish or whatever …

People are not a short list of labels. We are human beings, each of us in evolution.

We grow, we change, we think, we change our opinions, we learn.

But this is possible only if we listen, if we try to understand what is different from us, we try to think things from different points of view, we ask questions.

Cogito ergo sum. Only because of our thinking we are. Not animals, not passive, but alive with a soul that seeks nourishment in the beauties of the planet and in everyone who crosses our path or has left messages to the world.

We have not been made to be alone. And the planet is a sphere with no corners.

Martin Luther King was saying that if we do not learn to live like brothers, we will all perish like fools. It is so true, in the madness of all wars and all discriminations people are facing for all possible reasons.

Let’s start to consider ourselves for real all brothers, with no better or worse, with no right or wrong, just differences.

Respect for everyone. Everyone is a person who deserves respect. We all deserve shaken hands and a real hug. Because we are all one and only one big family called Planet earth.

All the best to everyone and please also here in Italy we need now a help to fight these racists xenophobic, omophobic, islamophobic and all the phobics of the world, to fight them back with the simplicity of the message of the pure true love for each other and every human being on earth, with the principle, that should not remain just a principle but the essence of each society, of true equality.

 

See you next

Thanks for reading me

Take care you all

Barbara