Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara

 

 

 

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2019 New Beginning

Happy New Year to everyone! Happy beginning of 2019!!!!

I truly wish this 2019 will be for everyone a turning point year.

I am turning 40 now in January on the 9th. Yes, just numbers, but still … now is the time for me to start living and stop just existing.

Life is now, life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans.

We must take risks, face challenges … live.

Going out from our comfort zone is difficult because it is scary. The unknown is scary. But who wants to live with regrets of what if? What if?

Making mistakes, falling … are part of the journey.

We all must become the best version of ourselves.

People think the competition is against the others: actually is withing ourselves. Our own doubts and fears and worries to be won.

A beautiful sunny morning. Sunshine. What we all need.

And we are all called here to make this planet a better place, so stop the hate, stop the judging. Nobody is perfect, and we are not here to change the others, but to accept everyone and love them for who they are, making everyone realize that there is no right or wrong, no good religion or bad religion, no saints and no sinners, no pure and impure people. We all have same dignity, same rights and deserve the same respect.

Men and women are the same, we all are the same. And we all must go on in the struggle to give everywhere on earth same rights, same dignity same possibilities of chosing our own life to everyone. A women will never be an object, and just a wife or a mother. Same dreams, same careers, same rights to follow our own dreams, decide the life we want to live, who we want to live it with …

And gays or transgender people exist. The LGBT community cannot be ignored or cancelled. They have same rights to be, to dream, to live, to build a rainbow family, where family is and always will be a place of love, a place of the heart where two or more people just share part of their life in a unity that knows no limits of geography, no limits of gender. Real true equality because love exists and deserves to be.

God created each of us, and who is born gay deserves to live the life they want and feel.

Stop pretending to fit everyone in boxes society would like to keep. No one can be put in a box, or marked with just a label. We are all different individuals with our own story, mind and heart. Unique. A masterpiece.

We all deserve to be let shine our own light.

Life is now, life is for everyone because we all belong to this mother earth. This planet we must also take care of.

We are all one big family called humanity. If people will not get this, there will always be wars. We are all bound because we are all children of the same Creator who gave us the freedom to live and be, ourselves, with our gifts and talent to be used, not wasted, with our heart to love, be loved, feel.

We are here. We are alive. Let’s live for real. Not imaging a life that is not there, but creating and making the life the way we feel it and want to live it.

Freedom for everyone. Same rights. Same respect. Same dignity. We are all the same.

Let us make this 2019 the year of unity for this planet, to help who is less lucky, to help who is in need. Because there will never be walls able to separate what God has created: humanity. Only one race, only one planet.

Let us all embrace, a big hug together because we are all the same, all human, alive to live and love.

Life without love is just nonsense. The purpose we are here for is to love all mankind, all Nature and wherever we will be we will always be home, because our home is this planet.

Let us make it a true home for everyone.

A big hug to all of you.

Shine, and do not let anyone steal away your smile. We are alive: the first and main reason to be going on shining. Let our soul sing a song that is the true energy of life. Being alive.

Bloom. Share light and

Love is what will be able to fight darkness and hate. Love is the only weapon that truly wins.

Love is and always will be the answer for everything.

Take care you all

Be blessed, and always walk in the light, shining with the candle of love burning inside our soul. Give love to everyone and it will come back in unexpected ways, because love is the magic of our existence.

Shine. Give. Life is a giving. And joy will be in the giving always. And the more love you give the more you will have in your heart, because love is infinity and who lives of love lives forever.

2018 committments

2018! Happy New Year to everyone!

This post is not about me, it is about you!

What are your committments for this, just begun, 2018? Which are your goals?

We have to start from ourselves!

And first goal is to be happy! Truly happy!

And the first thing we should be happy about is ourselves! Yes. Because everything starts with us. If we are not happy about ourselves, how can we think that something external to us, could make us happy?

So we must first love ourselves, and be happy of who we are.

And we must start this with accepting our true self.

Stop pretending to be who we are not! And simply accepting who we are.

No more inner conflicts! No condemnations or heavy judgments!

So let’s start from the past.

The past is past. Sounds quite an obvious statement, but actually it is not that obvious, because we still make our past weight and be a burden for our present and our life now! So let’s start to forgive ourselves for our past.

We can begin 2018 with the hope to manage to fix all that we did wrong last year, but what cannot be changed and fixed, we just have to let it go! Move on! Past is dead. Consequences of the past remain, and this is the only thing we have to deal with, but we cannot change what has already happened! We can do something new, but not cancel what is done! So leave it!

So 2018 we must stop stressing ourselves about our past mistakes!

We learn from our mistakes, they are our best teachers! But we live in the present. So let’s focus on the “now”.

Changement

We must love ourselves, so if there is something about ourselves that we are not happy with, we simply have to change it! Stop complaining and overthinking! Nothing is permanent! We must improve. Let’s do it! Move on! Do something! If we really want something we have to start working for it! Looking at the ceiling doing nothing, will not change anything!

So let’s go out from social networks, Let’s live for real! And let’s make the changes we are dreaming about!

What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror every morning?

Every day is a new card we have been given to play, and live.

If we want a new start, a refreshment, why not trying for instance a different hair cut? Hair color?

Make-up. We should take care of ourselves and love that image we see in the mirror. Make up is a gesture of love towards ourselves. We do not have to look “beautiful” for someone else, but for ourselves. And it will improve your self exteem too. So try! Not too much make-up. Day time you cannot look like going to a glitter disco party or dark heavy metal concert! So be sober! And remember care of our external look, but without a smiling inner soul in peace, every outfit would be wrong. But we have both external and internal side, so we must take care also of our body and our look!

Diet. What an ugly word! Nobody should be on diet! We should be caring and loving ourselves and our bodies too! So listen to what our body truly needs. There should be a balanced and healthy relationship with food! We need food to be alive as we need liquids to be hydrated. And now I do not want to make you a lecture on vitamins, carbohydrates … But you all know that we need fruit and vegetables for vitamines, carbohydrates for energy of long term release (sugars are not good because of the high glycemic index), we need proteins for muscles and also iron for carrying oxygen in our blood stream …

So limit the rubbish staff! The sugars! Once in a while you can, but daily eat healthy!

And then the main thing is quantity!

Do you eat slowly? Do you put your food in smaller plates to trick your mind about how much you are eating? Do you eat without watching telly or doing something else? yes because we need to eat slowly! We will feel fuller sooner. We need to trick the mind convincing also our inner self that we will not be starving! Very wrong to eat on sofa watching movies or anything because this way is a compulsive eating with no real mind monitoring on real quantities taken …

There are lots of little changes we should do. Drink enough water during the day to fight liquid retentions! Do not skip meals, but even little, we should always eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.

But above all, the most important thing to do is sport! Not going to play at the olympics but is enough a walk, a run, swimming, gym … whatever you like but just movement!

Once I read an article saying that airplains are not meant to stay on the ground, and actually they get “rust” and deteriorate quicker if they are kept on the ground insteat of being used flying in the skies. Same for us! We need to keep active! And doing any kind of sport activity releases “happiness” signals to our body. Sport makes us produce and release endorphins! We do not need drugs! Try it! After, you will feel relaxed but also with a bunch of additional energy to spend! Also the mind gets recharged, and can then focus back better on issues. Also metabolisms increases! So stop doing nothing! Even cleaning the house is a movement! Do something! Especially if it is a sunny day, go out for a walk!

So if the issue with your happiness is your body shape or weight, start doing a little thing every day!

Since I have been in India on vacation, I have started some yoga exercises every morning. Just breathing things, simple ones. But every little helps.

And if alone you are not brave enough to move: involve someone else for a walk, a run, a tennis game, going to the swimming pool … anything!

Then clothes

Quite a tricky subject. It depends on occasions, mood, what fits you the better …

Let’s say that we all must be feeling comfortable in what we are wearing. So we can then forget what we are wearing and concentrate on living!

A perfect teraphy for happiness is colors therapy. I already wrote it here in another article, so I will not repeat myself. Just that if you want to cheer up, use bright colors! The world is beautiful and full of colors! So wear colors!

All this I wrote till now is mainly about your “external side”.

For what concerns about your inner side, your soul … Try to make a real peace treaty with yourself.

Write down a to do list. Think about where would you like to get, what would you like to achieve. And start to work on what’s necessary to shorten the distance between where you are and where you would like to be. And remember Rome wasn’t built in a day! But start doing something in the direction of your dreams! Do not give up! Life is one, and “if you can dream it, you can do it!” Walt Disney

Attitude

Be positive! Always! Even if something goes wrong, just trust the journey! Things happen for a reason. Do not give up! “The darkest hour is always the one before the dawn!”Cohelo. And go on smiling!

Positivity is contageous, and the more you share it, the more it comes back to you!

You are alive! Remember this!

Try to treat everyone with kindness. Remember Ghandi. The strenght is in the calmness.

And if you start to put yourself in harmony with the others and the universe, the universe itself will help you moving in the direction of your dreams.

Will is everything, will is power.

And do not focus on what has not been achieved yet, but see what you have done already! you are moving in the right direction! And if there is no way in front of you, it maybe a turn in the street, but keep walking. If a door does not open, maybe it is not your door, or maybe it is not supposed to be opened now! Have faith! And keep moving forward!

And above all thoughts remember you are never alone. God is next to you, always. Trust Him!

Best of luck to you all, in all your battles and struggles.

And I wish you the best 2018! With happiness, results, satisfactions …

And remember happiness is not meant to be celebrated alone!

Share it! Do not keep it for yourself! Spread it around!

You all deserve it, and if someone truly loves you, your happiness is their happiness and the same in reverse! Learn to share your emotions! Be alive! We are not cold machines. We are here to share! And giving to the others, even if it is just i.e. our time, we will find a pure joy of the heart that goes beyond everything. Do not expect anything back. Just give. Love.

Life is short. Start to be positive and happy now! Happy for who you are, what you have, who is close to you, who you love and who loves you.

Remember nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes, what makes the difference is our attitude, and what we do, before, after … Take actions! Speak! Ask for forgivness, forgive and forget! Move on! Let it go! Focus on the positive always, and improve. We all must. In this short journey called life where we are asked to walk next to each other supporting, caring, being.

All the best

Take care of yourself you all

See you next

 

Barbara