Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara

 

 

 

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2019 New Beginning

Happy New Year to everyone! Happy beginning of 2019!!!!

I truly wish this 2019 will be for everyone a turning point year.

I am turning 40 now in January on the 9th. Yes, just numbers, but still … now is the time for me to start living and stop just existing.

Life is now, life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans.

We must take risks, face challenges … live.

Going out from our comfort zone is difficult because it is scary. The unknown is scary. But who wants to live with regrets of what if? What if?

Making mistakes, falling … are part of the journey.

We all must become the best version of ourselves.

People think the competition is against the others: actually is withing ourselves. Our own doubts and fears and worries to be won.

A beautiful sunny morning. Sunshine. What we all need.

And we are all called here to make this planet a better place, so stop the hate, stop the judging. Nobody is perfect, and we are not here to change the others, but to accept everyone and love them for who they are, making everyone realize that there is no right or wrong, no good religion or bad religion, no saints and no sinners, no pure and impure people. We all have same dignity, same rights and deserve the same respect.

Men and women are the same, we all are the same. And we all must go on in the struggle to give everywhere on earth same rights, same dignity same possibilities of chosing our own life to everyone. A women will never be an object, and just a wife or a mother. Same dreams, same careers, same rights to follow our own dreams, decide the life we want to live, who we want to live it with …

And gays or transgender people exist. The LGBT community cannot be ignored or cancelled. They have same rights to be, to dream, to live, to build a rainbow family, where family is and always will be a place of love, a place of the heart where two or more people just share part of their life in a unity that knows no limits of geography, no limits of gender. Real true equality because love exists and deserves to be.

God created each of us, and who is born gay deserves to live the life they want and feel.

Stop pretending to fit everyone in boxes society would like to keep. No one can be put in a box, or marked with just a label. We are all different individuals with our own story, mind and heart. Unique. A masterpiece.

We all deserve to be let shine our own light.

Life is now, life is for everyone because we all belong to this mother earth. This planet we must also take care of.

We are all one big family called humanity. If people will not get this, there will always be wars. We are all bound because we are all children of the same Creator who gave us the freedom to live and be, ourselves, with our gifts and talent to be used, not wasted, with our heart to love, be loved, feel.

We are here. We are alive. Let’s live for real. Not imaging a life that is not there, but creating and making the life the way we feel it and want to live it.

Freedom for everyone. Same rights. Same respect. Same dignity. We are all the same.

Let us make this 2019 the year of unity for this planet, to help who is less lucky, to help who is in need. Because there will never be walls able to separate what God has created: humanity. Only one race, only one planet.

Let us all embrace, a big hug together because we are all the same, all human, alive to live and love.

Life without love is just nonsense. The purpose we are here for is to love all mankind, all Nature and wherever we will be we will always be home, because our home is this planet.

Let us make it a true home for everyone.

A big hug to all of you.

Shine, and do not let anyone steal away your smile. We are alive: the first and main reason to be going on shining. Let our soul sing a song that is the true energy of life. Being alive.

Bloom. Share light and

Love is what will be able to fight darkness and hate. Love is the only weapon that truly wins.

Love is and always will be the answer for everything.

Take care you all

Be blessed, and always walk in the light, shining with the candle of love burning inside our soul. Give love to everyone and it will come back in unexpected ways, because love is the magic of our existence.

Shine. Give. Life is a giving. And joy will be in the giving always. And the more love you give the more you will have in your heart, because love is infinity and who lives of love lives forever.

URGENT! We must SAVE HER now!

Hi everyone this is URGENT!!!!

Tomorrow 8 of October 2018 she will be sentenced to death due to Blasphemy accusation.

Pakistan. She has 5 children. Her only fault to be Catholic.

She is innocent. She did not offend the Prophet. We MUST save her!!!!

PLEASE SHARE THIS POST

Her life! She MUST STAY ALIVE!

Death for Blasphemy is not human!

We must save her!!!!!

PELASE share with this hashtag #FreeAsiaBibi

Please!!!

Thanks you all

Barbara

here the article to share also.

https://www.catholicsinpakistan.org/breaking-supreme-court-to-hear-the-final-appeal-against-the-execution-of-asia-bibi/

 

Life is now. No regrets

Hi everyone,

yes … I know. A while I am not writing here.

The reason is always the same: time and inspiration.

But today I would like to share with you what is resounding inside me so loudly at the moment.

I am sure each of you is struggling with something. Personally it is months that I am struggling with my job. To find one first after I left my previous ones, the last longer was end of June, and then little things, and now one already renewed twice but still not sure about how it will go on and if it will. My contract expires on the 14th of October, rental to pay, expenses … so many … my car …

Then you know I have my novel in the book shops, still struggling to be known and read. Yes, it is not enough to have published a book, the most difficult part of it is after. Marketing, events, promotions … And I do not have money to invest in it. We are at the second edition but still I remain pretty much unknown everywhere.

I would need money to correct and arrange my English translation of the novel, but I do not have the money necessary to do it.

So for now just published in Italy in Italian. I need to find a literary agent for abroad to find a publisher outiside Italy for its English version …

So my struggles are these, leaving on the side my personal life which is actually quite much tough at the moment as well.

So all of us, we find ourselves from time to time like stuck in moments of life where directions need to be taken and decisions as well about next steps. And we are a kind of lost thinking of where we will end up in our future.

Well, I would like to say that it is very human. Even now that I am almost 40 years old, I still do not know where exactly I am moving to. What will be my next life steps and decisions.

It is very human to feel lost and sometimes even broken at the same time, but we all must remember that we are here to give a meaning to our existence, and we are not just alive to survive but to live, fully and making our life worth living it with goals to achieve and dreams to follow, never giving up.

I think fear of failure is the worst judge we might have. But we must try. Take risks, maybe calculated ones, but still jump out from our comfort zone.

And we have to stop caring about other people’s judgments. Society is getting worst and worst in this. I think people are just jealous and envy of what you got.

It is not easy not to let bad energy touch you inside, but we must ignore the anger empty hearted people throw at us. We have to focus on the good in every situation and spread good energy even when it is rare or when we are given negativity as a gift.

So this post is a best of luck to everyone like me who is struggling in life.

Stop asking for approval! Just start living your life the way you want it. It is yours and nobody has the right to judge you. With honesty and a pure heart, good intentions toward everyone, and the goal to improve ourselves everyday.

If we start walking the distance will be shorter from our dream goal.

But we must start moving. Little steps. Days fly away and still we do nothing. We cannot expect anything to change if we go on doing the same things every day.

So let’s start move on. Little steps forward in the direction of building what we dream of. Doing what our eyes are sparkling for.

Passion is the only energy that we need to put in all we do. Let us live fully every single second of our existence, a time that will never come back, moments that are just now or never.

No regrets.

Just life to be lived fully now. And we do not have to delay, to say tomorrow. We start today to be fully ourselves with no regrets. Our life, just ours. And we will realize that happiness is the peace we have inside when we have no more conflicts between what we do and what we feel.

Let us be true to ourselves first. And let us be, as Ghandi was saying, the change we would like to see in the world.

Only in the name of the truth we can live an authentic life.

And yes, we can.

Take care of yourself all of you.

Move away negativity and negative people from your life and soul.

Be in peace inside you first.

And let’s move on.

Best of luck to all of you, and stop worrying. Life will give you the answers you need. Just have faith.

Thanks for reading me and I would need you support.

I put on Youtube the videos of my novel presentations.

If you write Barbara Perucca on the search botton you will find all my videos.

Whoever can read in Italian you can order my book.

Barbara Perucca – Non voglio ammettere che ti amo  – Edizioni Helicon

Thanks again to you all.

Advice welcome

Also feel free to ask me advice

Take care

 

Barbara

 

 

 

Undress your soul

Hi there!

Sorry again for being absent …

You know there are so many different kind of silences, and not just between two people.

Behind this one my messy life, and my mood shifting … not easy: 38 years old, still trying to understand what I really want to do with my life.

Why this title?

Because yes fashion is about clothes and how to get dressed, and how to look like, and make up, and shoes and hair style …

But the best outfit we could ever wear is our shining soul coming out from underneath our clothes.

So sometimes yes, dress is important: we cannot wear pajama at a wedding! But I think people sometimes forget that the best thing to do is just to undress a bit our soul with heavy covers.

We need to shine. We need to make our alive essence sparkling, and being able to glow and spread light all around.

I have always been told that I look much more beautiful when I smile. And I always wondered how can mood affect so much on the external appearance of someone and also other people’s perception.

Yes. We need to wear our best smile, that doesn’t have to be a fake one, but a true one, because finally we give room to our soul to be, to exist, to shine, to be noticed by others.

I always hear of people looking forward to copy someone else’s look. But what about being ourselves?

We are beautiful. All of us. And first of all our beauty is inside us. Hidden. Let’s undress our souls. Let us make the world look at our real us, our real essence.

Starting from the eyes: mirror of the soul, and actually more than mirror I would say door of the soul.

The magic of a glance. There is no glittering powder stronger in sparkle.

We don’t have to be afraid to show up. We deserve to be out there as much as anyone else.

Life is now.

Let’s be out there, and not hidden behind a computer screen. Let’s shine and live for real.

And not being afraid of what other people might think because we are ourselves.

If people don’t like us, it is not our problem, but theirs.

So let’s step out into the sunshine, and let’s undress our soul from all the heaviness and life covers.

We are here to shine and be.

Have a good life everyone.

Take care and see you soon.

I promise