8 th of March: women first?

Two days ago: WOMEN’S DAY. But what is it? What does it mean now in 2019?

What does it mean today to be a FEMINIST?

I guess the best reply is in a sign that has been shown in a march:

women 8 march

This is the point: to be a true feminist means recognizing that a women is a person, with own value and not because she is someone’s mother or daughter or sister or wife. This is the essence of everything.

Because the definition of a women is that a women is a person!

with same rights as a men!

Same dreams of career, self growth, goals as a man.

A women does not dream just a family and children! And some do not want children or family and it is ok as well, or want a family but work and career too.

This is what should be understood by everyone! We deserve freedom to chose our own life and if we want a career and a family as well, it should be possible! No one should sacrifice their own life and future and studies! Ambitions, dreams must not be killed by anyone. And in this freedom we all deserve worldwide, there is also the freedom of chosing who to marry. Freedom for our destiny, freedom of indipendency, economically and not only economically. The possibility to live alone even if we haven’t found the right partner, or the possibility of living together with someone before getting married to get to know each other and see compatibility.

And stop to child marriage!

As adults women deserve same rights and freedom as men. Same!

And discriminations must stop!

As well as growing women playing with dolls and boys with cars. Dance for girls and football for boys! This is rubbish!

Each person should be free to play and do what they do like!

There are still too many prejudices and discriminations.

But above all worldwide women should be free and in charge of their own life!

And one last word for an orrific inhuman practice: infibulation. Worldwide we must stop this orrific violence against girls. Inhuman and prohibited but still done.

If you go on Wikipedia you can get enough info if you do not know what is it this abomination.

WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT AND THE DUTY TO STAND FOR WHAT IS RIGHT, no matter what.

And we all must fight for a real and truly EQUAL WORLD.

True equalilty and no gender discrimination.

And another last note about the LGBT community. Each person deserves respect, and must be recognized in same dignity.

The struggle is for all countries where people must fake their own identity and love because otherwise they would be prosecuted and even killed. Shame!

We are in 2019. And all people must be accepted and not judged.

WE ARE EQUAL IN RIGHTS AND DIGNITY AND RESPECT we deserve.

And whoever considers himself superior because of religion or sex, or sexual orientation or country of origin, or birth place or status or color of the skin is simply not right and not human.

HUMANITY is recognizing we are brothers, all at the same level of dignity and respect that we must receive. No one is superior, no one is right and the others are wrong. Each person has their own way in this life, their own pathway. Different pathways, but no one should ever judge! There is no right or perfect religion, there is no right or wrong sexual orientation, there is no right or wrong color of the skin …

Discriminations must stop! Now!

And the 8th of March is to remind us all that we really all deserve true equality, not just women, but all.

Let’s make this planet a better place by stop judging and starting understanding, stop preaching and start listening and then maybe advice or speak but remembering that things like religion or sexual orientations are private matters, and no one should ever been judged or discriminated for that.

And stop seeing women in the house and men at work! The house is for both! Both cooking, both cleaning, both growing kids. These prejudices about roles are ancient!

So the 8th of March is for all of this, and not just for one day, we must stand up for what is right every single day starting from our own life, in every gesture or thing we do.

Women WE DESERVE RESPECT AND SAME RIGHTS AS MEN! SAME!

All the best to all of you, in all your personal or social struggles.

WE ARE IN CHARGE OF CHANGING THIS WORLD NOW. WE ARE WRITING THE HISTORY NOW!

 

Take care

See you soon

Barbara

 

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Life is now. No regrets

Hi everyone,

yes … I know. A while I am not writing here.

The reason is always the same: time and inspiration.

But today I would like to share with you what is resounding inside me so loudly at the moment.

I am sure each of you is struggling with something. Personally it is months that I am struggling with my job. To find one first after I left my previous ones, the last longer was end of June, and then little things, and now one already renewed twice but still not sure about how it will go on and if it will. My contract expires on the 14th of October, rental to pay, expenses … so many … my car …

Then you know I have my novel in the book shops, still struggling to be known and read. Yes, it is not enough to have published a book, the most difficult part of it is after. Marketing, events, promotions … And I do not have money to invest in it. We are at the second edition but still I remain pretty much unknown everywhere.

I would need money to correct and arrange my English translation of the novel, but I do not have the money necessary to do it.

So for now just published in Italy in Italian. I need to find a literary agent for abroad to find a publisher outiside Italy for its English version …

So my struggles are these, leaving on the side my personal life which is actually quite much tough at the moment as well.

So all of us, we find ourselves from time to time like stuck in moments of life where directions need to be taken and decisions as well about next steps. And we are a kind of lost thinking of where we will end up in our future.

Well, I would like to say that it is very human. Even now that I am almost 40 years old, I still do not know where exactly I am moving to. What will be my next life steps and decisions.

It is very human to feel lost and sometimes even broken at the same time, but we all must remember that we are here to give a meaning to our existence, and we are not just alive to survive but to live, fully and making our life worth living it with goals to achieve and dreams to follow, never giving up.

I think fear of failure is the worst judge we might have. But we must try. Take risks, maybe calculated ones, but still jump out from our comfort zone.

And we have to stop caring about other people’s judgments. Society is getting worst and worst in this. I think people are just jealous and envy of what you got.

It is not easy not to let bad energy touch you inside, but we must ignore the anger empty hearted people throw at us. We have to focus on the good in every situation and spread good energy even when it is rare or when we are given negativity as a gift.

So this post is a best of luck to everyone like me who is struggling in life.

Stop asking for approval! Just start living your life the way you want it. It is yours and nobody has the right to judge you. With honesty and a pure heart, good intentions toward everyone, and the goal to improve ourselves everyday.

If we start walking the distance will be shorter from our dream goal.

But we must start moving. Little steps. Days fly away and still we do nothing. We cannot expect anything to change if we go on doing the same things every day.

So let’s start move on. Little steps forward in the direction of building what we dream of. Doing what our eyes are sparkling for.

Passion is the only energy that we need to put in all we do. Let us live fully every single second of our existence, a time that will never come back, moments that are just now or never.

No regrets.

Just life to be lived fully now. And we do not have to delay, to say tomorrow. We start today to be fully ourselves with no regrets. Our life, just ours. And we will realize that happiness is the peace we have inside when we have no more conflicts between what we do and what we feel.

Let us be true to ourselves first. And let us be, as Ghandi was saying, the change we would like to see in the world.

Only in the name of the truth we can live an authentic life.

And yes, we can.

Take care of yourself all of you.

Move away negativity and negative people from your life and soul.

Be in peace inside you first.

And let’s move on.

Best of luck to all of you, and stop worrying. Life will give you the answers you need. Just have faith.

Thanks for reading me and I would need you support.

I put on Youtube the videos of my novel presentations.

If you write Barbara Perucca on the search botton you will find all my videos.

Whoever can read in Italian you can order my book.

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Thanks again to you all.

Advice welcome

Also feel free to ask me advice

Take care

 

Barbara