EQUALITY

I apologize for my absence here, but you know what is the political situation now in Italy: a shame. And also because of this I felt the need to write you now this post.

I have a question for everyone: WHAT IS REAL EQUALITY?

The world still needs to truly know and put in practice this word for real worldwide.

Because there is no real democracy if there is no real equality. And what is real equality? It is the real equality of each person in front of the law. The law the same for everyone with no discriminations man or women, gay or transgender, Muslim, Catholic, Jewish … No discriminations at all, of any kind.

We all should be equal in front of the law as it is stated for instance in our Constitution, with no discrimination of religion, sex, sexual orientation, color of the skin …

But unfortunately we are facing two different realities on the planet.

Here in Italy, where these principles are stated but sometimes not applied and put in practice by people. We are facing an horrific increase of crimes with racial involvements. When the only race for everyone is human race, but some people, due also to our new government fear campaign, are now not respecting this basic principle of real equality of human beings. So some people have been assaulted, and we had also death episodes in the past, just because of the color of the skin or ethnicity. The scandal raised also in Europe watching our country going more and more extremist and far right in decisions, also not to receive the boats with immigrants that were risking their lives in the sea … And we are responsible of so many lives lost in the Mediterrenean if we could have been able not to give this immigrations in the hands of the mafia, but creating real human corridors, for people to come legally here and have the assistance they deserve because they are running away from war, persecution, starvation … The solution would never be just to send these people back because migrations have always been part of human history and cannot be stopped.

And the second reality I am talking about is in those places on earth where real equality is not respected by the states themselves and by their laws. Where because of religion discriminations people are not given jobs, where because women they are not paid the same as men, where because of sexual orientation people are discriminated, and even jailed or killed in some states of the planet.

I mean where is real equality?

Does it matter if a person has a different skin color, or worships a different religion, or falls in love with another human being maybe of the same sex?

Does this influence laws or how people are or should be treated?

Yes. Unfortunately people in 2018 worldwide are still discriminated for the color of their skin, for their religion, for their sexual orientation.

With no respect for real equality.

It is so sad. And the fault of all this?

Who encourages discriminations and hate, and mainly the lack of culture and education.

Yes, because studying the world history we would discover that there is no elected people, everyone is the same to one another because we all descend from the same ancestors coming back from what was before one single continent.

We would discover that Jesus had dark skin.

We would have discovered omosexuality has always existed, in all society and you cannot stop what is not a personal choice but a peculiarity of the person, not a free choice, but a way of being. And actually it exists also in nature in the natural life in the animals world.

Also animals, if you see them, they attack when they feel in danger. Human beings are the only ones who are able of evil behaviors just for the sake of it. So for no reason discriminations and attacks to who is different just because of differences, and not even because of real dangers.

People think of immigrations as invasions: they are not. Even states are conventions. Borders are a human creation. But everyone is building walls starting from their inner soul.

Why in 2018 the world is not able to have people living in peace together? Money and power.

And above all, why we are not able to live in real equality in all laws and relationships?

The answer is always the same: money, power. There are so many interests in these behaviors.

When a population is in economical difficulities, it is easier to find a target, an enemy to be accused of all disgraces. Like it was for the Jewish in the Second World War. They were also rich, and they were just an obstacle for more money and more power in the minds of all those sick people who got involved in one of the biggest shames of the planet history.

So fear. I guess fear is the reason why people are not able to accept and put in practice real equality principles. Weakness. Not enough self esteem to accept confrontations.

But the real strenght is in the peace of mind of being themselves. Thinking with their own head. Being free in the soul even before than in the body.

But it is easier for all dictatorships to controll the masses with just orders, they do not have to think with their own mind. Keeping people obiedient because of fear so that they will never complain or try to change things.

Making people fighting with each other not to see bigger issues above or aroud them. It is always a distraction.

When in the world people will start to realize that is not a matter of a war between people who are right and people who are wrong, and there is no necessity to change anyone because we all should be accepted for who we are. Confrontations, opinions should be free. People are afraid of opinions because maybe they can make people realize things from different point of view. And people maybe can change their opinions.

Only God is perfect. We are human, and no one can say to be perfect or to have the real Truth about everything.

And when people will stop to feel superior to the others or just right and the others wrong. When we will put aside judgments. Then we will be truly able to start a real genuine peaceful cohexistence where we can all learn and enrich ourselves from each other.

The world is beautiful because of its variety. Colors. We cannot put people into boxes to define them. Each individual is unique and in its uniqueness needs to be respected and should always have the same rights and duties as all the others.

Let’s make this planet a better world.

Let’s stop the judgment and the sentences. People should be free to be themselves, always. And real justice is when people are really never ever discriminated or treated differently: man or women, gay or straight, Muslim or Jewish or whatever …

People are not a short list of labels. We are human beings, each of us in evolution.

We grow, we change, we think, we change our opinions, we learn.

But this is possible only if we listen, if we try to understand what is different from us, we try to think things from different points of view, we ask questions.

Cogito ergo sum. Only because of our thinking we are. Not animals, not passive, but alive with a soul that seeks nourishment in the beauties of the planet and in everyone who crosses our path or has left messages to the world.

We have not been made to be alone. And the planet is a sphere with no corners.

Martin Luther King was saying that if we do not learn to live like brothers, we will all perish like fools. It is so true, in the madness of all wars and all discriminations people are facing for all possible reasons.

Let’s start to consider ourselves for real all brothers, with no better or worse, with no right or wrong, just differences.

Respect for everyone. Everyone is a person who deserves respect. We all deserve shaken hands and a real hug. Because we are all one and only one big family called Planet earth.

All the best to everyone and please also here in Italy we need now a help to fight these racists xenophobic, omophobic, islamophobic and all the phobics of the world, to fight them back with the simplicity of the message of the pure true love for each other and every human being on earth, with the principle, that should not remain just a principle but the essence of each society, of true equality.

 

See you next

Thanks for reading me

Take care you all

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

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2018 committments

2018! Happy New Year to everyone!

This post is not about me, it is about you!

What are your committments for this, just begun, 2018? Which are your goals?

We have to start from ourselves!

And first goal is to be happy! Truly happy!

And the first thing we should be happy about is ourselves! Yes. Because everything starts with us. If we are not happy about ourselves, how can we think that something external to us, could make us happy?

So we must first love ourselves, and be happy of who we are.

And we must start this with accepting our true self.

Stop pretending to be who we are not! And simply accepting who we are.

No more inner conflicts! No condemnations or heavy judgments!

So let’s start from the past.

The past is past. Sounds quite an obvious statement, but actually it is not that obvious, because we still make our past weight and be a burden for our present and our life now! So let’s start to forgive ourselves for our past.

We can begin 2018 with the hope to manage to fix all that we did wrong last year, but what cannot be changed and fixed, we just have to let it go! Move on! Past is dead. Consequences of the past remain, and this is the only thing we have to deal with, but we cannot change what has already happened! We can do something new, but not cancel what is done! So leave it!

So 2018 we must stop stressing ourselves about our past mistakes!

We learn from our mistakes, they are our best teachers! But we live in the present. So let’s focus on the “now”.

Changement

We must love ourselves, so if there is something about ourselves that we are not happy with, we simply have to change it! Stop complaining and overthinking! Nothing is permanent! We must improve. Let’s do it! Move on! Do something! If we really want something we have to start working for it! Looking at the ceiling doing nothing, will not change anything!

So let’s go out from social networks, Let’s live for real! And let’s make the changes we are dreaming about!

What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror every morning?

Every day is a new card we have been given to play, and live.

If we want a new start, a refreshment, why not trying for instance a different hair cut? Hair color?

Make-up. We should take care of ourselves and love that image we see in the mirror. Make up is a gesture of love towards ourselves. We do not have to look “beautiful” for someone else, but for ourselves. And it will improve your self exteem too. So try! Not too much make-up. Day time you cannot look like going to a glitter disco party or dark heavy metal concert! So be sober! And remember care of our external look, but without a smiling inner soul in peace, every outfit would be wrong. But we have both external and internal side, so we must take care also of our body and our look!

Diet. What an ugly word! Nobody should be on diet! We should be caring and loving ourselves and our bodies too! So listen to what our body truly needs. There should be a balanced and healthy relationship with food! We need food to be alive as we need liquids to be hydrated. And now I do not want to make you a lecture on vitamins, carbohydrates … But you all know that we need fruit and vegetables for vitamines, carbohydrates for energy of long term release (sugars are not good because of the high glycemic index), we need proteins for muscles and also iron for carrying oxygen in our blood stream …

So limit the rubbish staff! The sugars! Once in a while you can, but daily eat healthy!

And then the main thing is quantity!

Do you eat slowly? Do you put your food in smaller plates to trick your mind about how much you are eating? Do you eat without watching telly or doing something else? yes because we need to eat slowly! We will feel fuller sooner. We need to trick the mind convincing also our inner self that we will not be starving! Very wrong to eat on sofa watching movies or anything because this way is a compulsive eating with no real mind monitoring on real quantities taken …

There are lots of little changes we should do. Drink enough water during the day to fight liquid retentions! Do not skip meals, but even little, we should always eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.

But above all, the most important thing to do is sport! Not going to play at the olympics but is enough a walk, a run, swimming, gym … whatever you like but just movement!

Once I read an article saying that airplains are not meant to stay on the ground, and actually they get “rust” and deteriorate quicker if they are kept on the ground insteat of being used flying in the skies. Same for us! We need to keep active! And doing any kind of sport activity releases “happiness” signals to our body. Sport makes us produce and release endorphins! We do not need drugs! Try it! After, you will feel relaxed but also with a bunch of additional energy to spend! Also the mind gets recharged, and can then focus back better on issues. Also metabolisms increases! So stop doing nothing! Even cleaning the house is a movement! Do something! Especially if it is a sunny day, go out for a walk!

So if the issue with your happiness is your body shape or weight, start doing a little thing every day!

Since I have been in India on vacation, I have started some yoga exercises every morning. Just breathing things, simple ones. But every little helps.

And if alone you are not brave enough to move: involve someone else for a walk, a run, a tennis game, going to the swimming pool … anything!

Then clothes

Quite a tricky subject. It depends on occasions, mood, what fits you the better …

Let’s say that we all must be feeling comfortable in what we are wearing. So we can then forget what we are wearing and concentrate on living!

A perfect teraphy for happiness is colors therapy. I already wrote it here in another article, so I will not repeat myself. Just that if you want to cheer up, use bright colors! The world is beautiful and full of colors! So wear colors!

All this I wrote till now is mainly about your “external side”.

For what concerns about your inner side, your soul … Try to make a real peace treaty with yourself.

Write down a to do list. Think about where would you like to get, what would you like to achieve. And start to work on what’s necessary to shorten the distance between where you are and where you would like to be. And remember Rome wasn’t built in a day! But start doing something in the direction of your dreams! Do not give up! Life is one, and “if you can dream it, you can do it!” Walt Disney

Attitude

Be positive! Always! Even if something goes wrong, just trust the journey! Things happen for a reason. Do not give up! “The darkest hour is always the one before the dawn!”Cohelo. And go on smiling!

Positivity is contageous, and the more you share it, the more it comes back to you!

You are alive! Remember this!

Try to treat everyone with kindness. Remember Ghandi. The strenght is in the calmness.

And if you start to put yourself in harmony with the others and the universe, the universe itself will help you moving in the direction of your dreams.

Will is everything, will is power.

And do not focus on what has not been achieved yet, but see what you have done already! you are moving in the right direction! And if there is no way in front of you, it maybe a turn in the street, but keep walking. If a door does not open, maybe it is not your door, or maybe it is not supposed to be opened now! Have faith! And keep moving forward!

And above all thoughts remember you are never alone. God is next to you, always. Trust Him!

Best of luck to you all, in all your battles and struggles.

And I wish you the best 2018! With happiness, results, satisfactions …

And remember happiness is not meant to be celebrated alone!

Share it! Do not keep it for yourself! Spread it around!

You all deserve it, and if someone truly loves you, your happiness is their happiness and the same in reverse! Learn to share your emotions! Be alive! We are not cold machines. We are here to share! And giving to the others, even if it is just i.e. our time, we will find a pure joy of the heart that goes beyond everything. Do not expect anything back. Just give. Love.

Life is short. Start to be positive and happy now! Happy for who you are, what you have, who is close to you, who you love and who loves you.

Remember nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes, what makes the difference is our attitude, and what we do, before, after … Take actions! Speak! Ask for forgivness, forgive and forget! Move on! Let it go! Focus on the positive always, and improve. We all must. In this short journey called life where we are asked to walk next to each other supporting, caring, being.

All the best

Take care of yourself you all

See you next

 

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Easter dress code

Easter …

Happy Easter everyone first of all!

I was just wondering which is your own outfit for Easter?

Christmas celebrations is, let’s say, quite easier because it is winter (I know not in Australia but …), and is big family gatherings, with parents and closed ones … so definitely the outfit needed goes towards the smart side. But not as smart as New Year’s Eve, I mean more sober, with less sparkling lights, and more warm colors and red. Yes, red. I remember this past Christmas my dress was just red, a warm dark colored red, but red. Red seems the perfect color for those festivities. But not for Easter.

So then what?

Well mostly depends on the weather. And when Easter falls each year.

This year, 2017, we are speaking about the 16th of April, so already Spring time, started a while ago, and quite hot also. Some rains here in Florence, but no more coats for sure! No more wool also.

So then what?

It mostly depends where we have to go to.

My Easter will be quite simple tomorrow, just me and my mum, so I do not have to exaggerate, I wouldn’t have anyway.

So maybe not jeans and hoodie, but not even a smart evening outfit too.

But for sure we have to make a difference with everyday dressing, so maybe we could go for some details to stress that it is a “special day”.

I remember once, years ago, I was just on a trip with friends, so Easter lunch was as simple and as warm as friends company is.

We use to say: “Christmas with your family, and Easter with whoever you want!”

So in the end it will be up to you! Depending on the company and the location of course! High heels in the countryside maybe not …

Be at ease. Not too formal. Something you can feel you are aware of the special day that is, but with a more “soul dressing” than body clothing.

What about the colors?

Freedom of choice. Maybe a touch of color yes, not black or grey only. We need colors. As color therapy also teaches, we have to be lifted up also by bright colors.

My city, Florence, has the Purple as color for our football team, so I do love it really, I am wearing it today also! So why not a nice purple?

So for Easter dress code I would advice moderation, but colors!

And have a lovely Easter time everyone, trying not to eat too much chocolate and cakes! But anyway enjoy!

I remember spending my Easter in London, when I was living there, quite many years ago, working … Some chocolate arrived anyway but it was a working outfit I was wearing …

Anyway, most of all we have to feel Easter inside, in our hearts.

So let’s the light inside us be the shining light that dresses ourselves also.

Love has to be the best ever outfit we could ever wear, in our sight, in our gestures, to make everything brighter.

Happy Easter again to everyone.

You all take care!

See you next

Barbara

 

All begins with the mirror

Ok.

We have to start somewhere!

So … here we are!

A first post about our own fashion … our wardrobe!

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We open the door of our wardrobe and we just stand in front of its mirror … never looking as we would like to.

No panic!

Let’s start from a first important concept about fashion: it has to give colors to our day!

There have been lots of studies about personal mood and the color of the garments we decide to wear. So first important rule in the morning: always follow your guts!

If you feel like wearing a specific color, just do it! There is a reason behind it.

If we feel determinate a vivid color could be our cup of tea, like red that is not just the color of love and passion but also of strength, energy … showing up …

If you are looking for a sort of balance you will maybe find yourself in the mood of wearing something green, or blue that also communicates calmness, and it is an anti-stress color.

Sophisticated in purple. More ground bound with brown color.

Black always makes us look slimmer, but also is a color with authority and respect demand.

So just follow your mood! You have to start your day feeling comfortable in what you are wearing. Being able to forget about it when busy, so being at ease, not feeling overlooked or judged.

By the way there will always be people watching us, and judging, so let’s stop caring about it!

If we are confident with our look, why should we care about what other people would say?

Let’s stop living for the judgement of the others. Let’s be just ourselves. Being comfortable with us and our look. No one else matters. Ourselves first, in a good way.

Because if we do not love ourselves first, how can we be able to love the others?

So let’s move on. Dress up. Go out in the world and don’t be afraid of being who you are!

We have to remind us that we are beautiful. And our own beauty doesn’t need to be compared with anyone else’s, because it is just ours.

And if we are relaxed and in peace with ourselves, our sparkling eyes will make our soul shine brightly in any outfit.

So no worries.

Beauty doesn’t have to be copying anyone. But being ourselves!

Let’s make it ours. And let’s make our own fashion: ours!

 

Thanks for reading this very first post.

Going more into fashion with the following ones …

Keep following me!

Barbara