San Valentine is it worthy?

Hi everyone,

tomorrow is the day … yes San Valentine.

Is it worthy?

I mean is it still worthy to celebrate it?

What does it really mean?

Can a day take the place of the relationship in its whole? Can be happiness and joy and gifts concentrated just in silly recurrent dates during the years?

Is a relationship just the spark of one day?

Just the passion of a few hours? Just the joy of giving and receiving and spending happy time together only and truly one day per year?

I think that if there are not 364 days where a couple is happy, there is no point to celebrate just one day out of 365.

If there is no real care, attention, love, joy, time together, gifts, attention …

San Valentine can be true only if it is not just one day, but if it is the remembrance of all the days of the year, all life that is a true real presence in each other’s existence.

And a presence is necessary, is needed, is the true consequence of a pure feeling, love, that just wants to feel that soul near, no matter what, no matter physical distance, no matter material stuff. A closeness, natural necessity, that is being truly in love.

Souls connected, souls bound with a chain that does not need to be made, but exists by itself.

Because love is free. Love is freedom, Is a free choice. Being free to love. And living a feeling. Letting the other people know where the heart is, what matters.

We live in societies where image is more important than essence. Appeareance is more important than soul and inner self. Feelings. Pushed away, hidden, shut down.

To love is to be free to make the soul express itself. Love is being a presence, love is living when not just your only life matters, but someone else’s becomes a priority.

Love is the essence of existence. Our being here on this planet.

San Valentine should be the celebration of pure love. That magic soul connection that needs no explainations, and no approval, but the heart’s. Love is a feeling that cannot be asked or pretended. Just is.

And when two souls meet each other and find a bound, then nothing else matters. Not even a silly celebration of a day, because love is beyond space and time, is above everything.

A day will not make the difference if there is just appearance and formal celebrations. Meaningless.

On the contrary if love exists, San Valentine will not change anything, it will be just another day to remember what is a daily permanent soul condition: being in love.

So I wish you all HAPPY SAN VALENTINE DAY.

Live it not as the last one, nor as the first one, or a spot one. Live it as the day of the days. Where love is not just one day. Love is a commitment that goese beyond, a presence that is not just for one day, but always, with the souls bound and never ever apart. When being is the essence. Love is not a tag or a label to write in a card with a rose or some chocolate. Love is being in someone else’s life with no way to think of our own life without that person. Love is an added meaning to our existence.

Share love, share your feelings, be a presence and not an absence. Because every human being can survive alone, but when there is another person in our existence the meanings change, the purpose changes, and colors appear, and light shines everywhere, from within a song from the heart.

LOVE. Be happy.

All the best to you all.

Happy celebrations and when you say “I love you”, truly mean it.

Love can only be true.

Take care

 

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Never Revenge, let Karma do its job

Hi everyone,

this morning a topic that might look banal but actually is not.

We are living in a world and in societies where more and more people seek revenge.

People who have been hurted or wronged have this crazy need of revenge, of getting something back, as if it could decrease the pain they feel, seeing someone else suffering.

Where is compassion?

Once a damage has been done it cannot be taken back!

So what is the point of punishing someone. Would you really feel better, feeling like “justice done”?

An eye for an eye?

Honor?

No. I am sorry but it does not work like this. If you have a little bit of heart you cannot be happy and enjoy seeing another human being suffer, not even if they did you wrong.

Leave to God the judgment. And by the way He is Endless Mercy, so …

It is so mean to wish bad luck to the others, to want revenge, to wish pain. This will not make us feel any better. Deep down how can you be happy of other people pain?

As Dalai Lama never stops advising, we all must seek compassion. And for who hurted us Karma does its job, not us.

And personally I think that the best wish is to hope they could realize the mistake they did and the pain they caused and feel consequently sorry for it. Repentance. And then forgivness, asking for forgivness and forgiving who did us wrong.

We all live and learn and make mistakes. We all must move forward. We all must forgive and apologize. And move on.

Painful but there is only one way to grow: through experiences that teach us more than hundred words.

So stop replying to anger with anger. Stop giving back hate to hate.

As Martin Luther King was saying:

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.

Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

So let us reply with love and compassion to those who hurt us. Because who hates is the one who most needs love. Who is angry is the one who most needs compassion.

To hate and hurt is pointless.

If you start filling your soul with love, love to spread to everyone, you will begin to see colors again in this world.

We are here to love each other. And the purpose in life is to love. Material stuff won’t last. Only love moves on and is immortal, as our soul that needs love to be fed.

Start with loving yourself, forgiving your mistakes, letting go, moving on from the past where no one can anymore live.

Breathe. We are alive and this is already the most beautiful gift we should be thankful for.

Let us do not waste a single day. Every day should be a new chance to love, to give, to feel. We are here for being alive for real. Following our heart and what really matters. People and not objects. Love and not material richness or power.

Stop using people and wanting things. We must do the opposite.

Respect to everyone. Never consider yourself superior to anyone. We are all alike in this planet and we will all go back to ashes, not with gold or material richnesses or any of our belongings with us.

What is material will perish. Only love will survive and remain even when we will not anyomore be on this planet.

Becuase only love is ethernal.

Seek for souls, not for bodies.

Love people in their deep inner essence, and make connections based on true feelings that could last. True friendships. True love.

Life is short. Do not waste it in crazy revenge and hate.

Make your soul free from bad energies. Fill it with love and positivity and sunshine.

Love is and will be the answer always.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara

 

 

 

Life is now. No regrets

Hi everyone,

yes … I know. A while I am not writing here.

The reason is always the same: time and inspiration.

But today I would like to share with you what is resounding inside me so loudly at the moment.

I am sure each of you is struggling with something. Personally it is months that I am struggling with my job. To find one first after I left my previous ones, the last longer was end of June, and then little things, and now one already renewed twice but still not sure about how it will go on and if it will. My contract expires on the 14th of October, rental to pay, expenses … so many … my car …

Then you know I have my novel in the book shops, still struggling to be known and read. Yes, it is not enough to have published a book, the most difficult part of it is after. Marketing, events, promotions … And I do not have money to invest in it. We are at the second edition but still I remain pretty much unknown everywhere.

I would need money to correct and arrange my English translation of the novel, but I do not have the money necessary to do it.

So for now just published in Italy in Italian. I need to find a literary agent for abroad to find a publisher outiside Italy for its English version …

So my struggles are these, leaving on the side my personal life which is actually quite much tough at the moment as well.

So all of us, we find ourselves from time to time like stuck in moments of life where directions need to be taken and decisions as well about next steps. And we are a kind of lost thinking of where we will end up in our future.

Well, I would like to say that it is very human. Even now that I am almost 40 years old, I still do not know where exactly I am moving to. What will be my next life steps and decisions.

It is very human to feel lost and sometimes even broken at the same time, but we all must remember that we are here to give a meaning to our existence, and we are not just alive to survive but to live, fully and making our life worth living it with goals to achieve and dreams to follow, never giving up.

I think fear of failure is the worst judge we might have. But we must try. Take risks, maybe calculated ones, but still jump out from our comfort zone.

And we have to stop caring about other people’s judgments. Society is getting worst and worst in this. I think people are just jealous and envy of what you got.

It is not easy not to let bad energy touch you inside, but we must ignore the anger empty hearted people throw at us. We have to focus on the good in every situation and spread good energy even when it is rare or when we are given negativity as a gift.

So this post is a best of luck to everyone like me who is struggling in life.

Stop asking for approval! Just start living your life the way you want it. It is yours and nobody has the right to judge you. With honesty and a pure heart, good intentions toward everyone, and the goal to improve ourselves everyday.

If we start walking the distance will be shorter from our dream goal.

But we must start moving. Little steps. Days fly away and still we do nothing. We cannot expect anything to change if we go on doing the same things every day.

So let’s start move on. Little steps forward in the direction of building what we dream of. Doing what our eyes are sparkling for.

Passion is the only energy that we need to put in all we do. Let us live fully every single second of our existence, a time that will never come back, moments that are just now or never.

No regrets.

Just life to be lived fully now. And we do not have to delay, to say tomorrow. We start today to be fully ourselves with no regrets. Our life, just ours. And we will realize that happiness is the peace we have inside when we have no more conflicts between what we do and what we feel.

Let us be true to ourselves first. And let us be, as Ghandi was saying, the change we would like to see in the world.

Only in the name of the truth we can live an authentic life.

And yes, we can.

Take care of yourself all of you.

Move away negativity and negative people from your life and soul.

Be in peace inside you first.

And let’s move on.

Best of luck to all of you, and stop worrying. Life will give you the answers you need. Just have faith.

Thanks for reading me and I would need you support.

I put on Youtube the videos of my novel presentations.

If you write Barbara Perucca on the search botton you will find all my videos.

Whoever can read in Italian you can order my book.

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Thanks again to you all.

Advice welcome

Also feel free to ask me advice

Take care

 

Barbara