Do not be “average”! We cannot live half way even our relationships.

Hi everyone!

After my birthday, 40 years old! I am writing this post for all of you who still, like me, do not feel have reached enough, or do not feel enough with themselves, and just accept reality and even jobs and relationships in a half way. Not a fullfilling story or job, but something “average”.

I found on Facebook the word “situationship” and it is quite fitting. We find ourselves in just “situations” not being brave enough or not feeling the rights to say no: we all deserve a 100% relationship, a real fullfilling and satisfying job. If it is not the case, we do not have to be afraid to quit. We will not lose a realtionship or a job, actually we will gain ourselves back, because we cannot live half way. We all deserve a true relationship with a companion, and not just a lazy “situationship” for fun and no commitment, and just in the spare time.

We all deserve a job that can give us something, instead of just taking away all our menthal and physical energies.

We deserve better. And especially in relationships there are no bills to be paid, or car or exepenses. Relationships are a plus in our existence, so because they are not necessary, when they exist they must be full and 100% involving.

People who do not want a true commitment or a true bound are just immature. Every story we have with someone should be lived as a commitment.

Then we all make mistakes, but we must give the other person the 100% of us in terms of attention, care, life. Living a relationship half way is simply not possible because we must respect ourselves first, and we deserve a true union.

Excuses are not accepted. We all have and live busy lives. If we want to be with someone we must be not just in the spare time and when is convenient, but always, with our mind, heart and soul. Relationships must be fully lived. This trend of “situationships” when people are together but only when they are free otherwise they can forget about the other person’s existence, is so sad and unacceptable.

Better to be alone than wasting our time and life with who does not deserve us because is simply not there for us 100%. Mutual love, respect, attention, care, presence. It should be simple, then it is always up to us to make it complicated. But we all are called to live honestly not pretending feelings that are not there, not being afraid to say no, demanding a real relationship, always.

Life is too short to be lived half way.

Stop pretending and start truly living. Feeling, getting commitments, being truly alive with what we all deserve: relationships that are not an half way, but a complete giving. A risk, a bet that no one knows if it will work or not, but still an investement of ourselves we must do.

Life is not meant to be watched from distance, but lived from the inside with a true heart beating, never stopping dreaming for better days to come because we all deserve it.

And yes we can. If we can dream it, we can do it.

All the best to everyone of you.

Stay blessed in the name of love always. And remember that whenver you will be following your heart, it will never be a mistake. Live with a pure heart, follow it. Clean your soul from what does not matter. Nourish your thoughts with positivity, because being alive is the miracle we live every single day.

Take care

 

See you soon

 

Barbara

 

 

 

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2019 New Beginning

Happy New Year to everyone! Happy beginning of 2019!!!!

I truly wish this 2019 will be for everyone a turning point year.

I am turning 40 now in January on the 9th. Yes, just numbers, but still … now is the time for me to start living and stop just existing.

Life is now, life is what is happening while we are busy making other plans.

We must take risks, face challenges … live.

Going out from our comfort zone is difficult because it is scary. The unknown is scary. But who wants to live with regrets of what if? What if?

Making mistakes, falling … are part of the journey.

We all must become the best version of ourselves.

People think the competition is against the others: actually is withing ourselves. Our own doubts and fears and worries to be won.

A beautiful sunny morning. Sunshine. What we all need.

And we are all called here to make this planet a better place, so stop the hate, stop the judging. Nobody is perfect, and we are not here to change the others, but to accept everyone and love them for who they are, making everyone realize that there is no right or wrong, no good religion or bad religion, no saints and no sinners, no pure and impure people. We all have same dignity, same rights and deserve the same respect.

Men and women are the same, we all are the same. And we all must go on in the struggle to give everywhere on earth same rights, same dignity same possibilities of chosing our own life to everyone. A women will never be an object, and just a wife or a mother. Same dreams, same careers, same rights to follow our own dreams, decide the life we want to live, who we want to live it with …

And gays or transgender people exist. The LGBT community cannot be ignored or cancelled. They have same rights to be, to dream, to live, to build a rainbow family, where family is and always will be a place of love, a place of the heart where two or more people just share part of their life in a unity that knows no limits of geography, no limits of gender. Real true equality because love exists and deserves to be.

God created each of us, and who is born gay deserves to live the life they want and feel.

Stop pretending to fit everyone in boxes society would like to keep. No one can be put in a box, or marked with just a label. We are all different individuals with our own story, mind and heart. Unique. A masterpiece.

We all deserve to be let shine our own light.

Life is now, life is for everyone because we all belong to this mother earth. This planet we must also take care of.

We are all one big family called humanity. If people will not get this, there will always be wars. We are all bound because we are all children of the same Creator who gave us the freedom to live and be, ourselves, with our gifts and talent to be used, not wasted, with our heart to love, be loved, feel.

We are here. We are alive. Let’s live for real. Not imaging a life that is not there, but creating and making the life the way we feel it and want to live it.

Freedom for everyone. Same rights. Same respect. Same dignity. We are all the same.

Let us make this 2019 the year of unity for this planet, to help who is less lucky, to help who is in need. Because there will never be walls able to separate what God has created: humanity. Only one race, only one planet.

Let us all embrace, a big hug together because we are all the same, all human, alive to live and love.

Life without love is just nonsense. The purpose we are here for is to love all mankind, all Nature and wherever we will be we will always be home, because our home is this planet.

Let us make it a true home for everyone.

A big hug to all of you.

Shine, and do not let anyone steal away your smile. We are alive: the first and main reason to be going on shining. Let our soul sing a song that is the true energy of life. Being alive.

Bloom. Share light and

Love is what will be able to fight darkness and hate. Love is the only weapon that truly wins.

Love is and always will be the answer for everything.

Take care you all

Be blessed, and always walk in the light, shining with the candle of love burning inside our soul. Give love to everyone and it will come back in unexpected ways, because love is the magic of our existence.

Shine. Give. Life is a giving. And joy will be in the giving always. And the more love you give the more you will have in your heart, because love is infinity and who lives of love lives forever.

LAST MINUTE TO SAVE HER!

Hi everyone!

URGENT WRITE A POST ON FACEBOOK AND EVERYWHERE WITH THESE TAGS:

#IStandWithSupremeCourt of Pakistan. we want justice for #AsiaBibi.

#FreeAsiaBibi #JusticeForAsia #Pakistan

This is the last update about Asia Bibi, a mother and a Catholic in Pakistan who did not offend Islam but was wrongly accused of blasphemy, spent 8 years in jail, was sentenced to death and now the court has proved her innocence but … protests arose in the country. Thousands of people protesting in cities and blocking streets, putting vehicles on fire, making life of Catholics and minorities really at risk! And also the lawyer who is Muslim who defended her is at risk. Already two people in the past were killed because defending her.: Salman Taseer (governor of Punjab) and Shahbaz Bhatti (previous lawyer of Asia Bibi). They died to defend the truth of her innocence! And they were Muslims as her present lawyer. Good Muslims who defend innocents!!!!

“…if any one killed a person, it would be as if he killed the whole of mankind; and if any one saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of the whole of mankind…” – The Holy Quran (Chapter Five, Verse 32).

SHE IS INNOCENT!!!!!!

The government now put her name in the Exist Control (ECL), so she cannot leave the country!!!!! The agreement with TLP and protesters!!!!! She was supposed to be free now after so many years of prison for a crime she did not committ. Islam was not offended, she is Catholic, this is her only fault!!!!! Accused of blasphemy but she is innocent! These protests are just for killing her! People have lost humanity, have lost their heart! She is a mother and she is innocent!!!!! Why shouting to kill her and kill also all good Muslims who defended her???

Very dangerous Tehreek-e-Labbaik Pakistan (TLP), fast-growing political party that exists to punish blasphemers. But here there is no blasphemer!

Now in Pakistan there is a real danger for all minorities especially Catholics. Public safety. Transportations blocked. Streets blocked. Cars on fire. Madness everywhere. Real danger!!!!!

Why international community does not do something? Where is our Pope?

Can we just watch a country on fire with thousands of mad people shouting for the death of an innocent???? they want her dead!!!!!!And also who is defending her!!!!

Please everyone share a post also on Facebook with you and a paper hold with just written:

#IStandWithSupremeCourt of Pakistan. we want justice for #AsiaBibi.

#FreeAsiaBibi #JusticeForAsia #Pakistan

PLEASE EVERYONE WORLDWIDE!!!!!!!! Internet can put all of us together! WE MUST BE HEARD! SHE MUST BE FREE! AND THESE PROTESTS HAVE TO END!!!!!!!!!!!

PLEASE!!!!!!

Life is just one. We must all stand for what is right. Time is now or never.

Please!!!!!!

We need help from everyone on the planet!

An innocent mother!

Where is humanity????????!!!!

They shout to kill her! Kill also all the good Muslims who stood for her!

God sake!

Please

Thanks

Barbara

GOD PROTECT THEM! PROTECT ASIA AND HER FAMILY AND HER LAWYER AND ALL INNOCENT PEOPLE ALSO MUSLIM WHO DEFEND HER. KEEP CATHOLIC PEOPLE SAFE AND ALL MINORITIES AND ALL GOOD PEOPLE WHO STILL HAVE A HEART IN THEIR CHEST, WHO STILL CAN BE HUMAN. These who protest are not human, have no heart. @ImranKhan #ImranKHAN #Khan #Imran #Pakistan true #justice #truth

#AsiaBibi

 

 

 

 

#IStandWithSupremeCourt of Pakistan. we want justice for #AsiaBibi

#FreeAsiaBibi #JusticeForAsia #Pakistan

URGENT! We must SAVE HER now!

Hi everyone this is URGENT!!!!

Tomorrow 8 of October 2018 she will be sentenced to death due to Blasphemy accusation.

Pakistan. She has 5 children. Her only fault to be Catholic.

She is innocent. She did not offend the Prophet. We MUST save her!!!!

PLEASE SHARE THIS POST

Her life! She MUST STAY ALIVE!

Death for Blasphemy is not human!

We must save her!!!!!

PELASE share with this hashtag #FreeAsiaBibi

Please!!!

Thanks you all

Barbara

here the article to share also.

https://www.catholicsinpakistan.org/breaking-supreme-court-to-hear-the-final-appeal-against-the-execution-of-asia-bibi/

 

Life is now. No regrets

Hi everyone,

yes … I know. A while I am not writing here.

The reason is always the same: time and inspiration.

But today I would like to share with you what is resounding inside me so loudly at the moment.

I am sure each of you is struggling with something. Personally it is months that I am struggling with my job. To find one first after I left my previous ones, the last longer was end of June, and then little things, and now one already renewed twice but still not sure about how it will go on and if it will. My contract expires on the 14th of October, rental to pay, expenses … so many … my car …

Then you know I have my novel in the book shops, still struggling to be known and read. Yes, it is not enough to have published a book, the most difficult part of it is after. Marketing, events, promotions … And I do not have money to invest in it. We are at the second edition but still I remain pretty much unknown everywhere.

I would need money to correct and arrange my English translation of the novel, but I do not have the money necessary to do it.

So for now just published in Italy in Italian. I need to find a literary agent for abroad to find a publisher outiside Italy for its English version …

So my struggles are these, leaving on the side my personal life which is actually quite much tough at the moment as well.

So all of us, we find ourselves from time to time like stuck in moments of life where directions need to be taken and decisions as well about next steps. And we are a kind of lost thinking of where we will end up in our future.

Well, I would like to say that it is very human. Even now that I am almost 40 years old, I still do not know where exactly I am moving to. What will be my next life steps and decisions.

It is very human to feel lost and sometimes even broken at the same time, but we all must remember that we are here to give a meaning to our existence, and we are not just alive to survive but to live, fully and making our life worth living it with goals to achieve and dreams to follow, never giving up.

I think fear of failure is the worst judge we might have. But we must try. Take risks, maybe calculated ones, but still jump out from our comfort zone.

And we have to stop caring about other people’s judgments. Society is getting worst and worst in this. I think people are just jealous and envy of what you got.

It is not easy not to let bad energy touch you inside, but we must ignore the anger empty hearted people throw at us. We have to focus on the good in every situation and spread good energy even when it is rare or when we are given negativity as a gift.

So this post is a best of luck to everyone like me who is struggling in life.

Stop asking for approval! Just start living your life the way you want it. It is yours and nobody has the right to judge you. With honesty and a pure heart, good intentions toward everyone, and the goal to improve ourselves everyday.

If we start walking the distance will be shorter from our dream goal.

But we must start moving. Little steps. Days fly away and still we do nothing. We cannot expect anything to change if we go on doing the same things every day.

So let’s start move on. Little steps forward in the direction of building what we dream of. Doing what our eyes are sparkling for.

Passion is the only energy that we need to put in all we do. Let us live fully every single second of our existence, a time that will never come back, moments that are just now or never.

No regrets.

Just life to be lived fully now. And we do not have to delay, to say tomorrow. We start today to be fully ourselves with no regrets. Our life, just ours. And we will realize that happiness is the peace we have inside when we have no more conflicts between what we do and what we feel.

Let us be true to ourselves first. And let us be, as Ghandi was saying, the change we would like to see in the world.

Only in the name of the truth we can live an authentic life.

And yes, we can.

Take care of yourself all of you.

Move away negativity and negative people from your life and soul.

Be in peace inside you first.

And let’s move on.

Best of luck to all of you, and stop worrying. Life will give you the answers you need. Just have faith.

Thanks for reading me and I would need you support.

I put on Youtube the videos of my novel presentations.

If you write Barbara Perucca on the search botton you will find all my videos.

Whoever can read in Italian you can order my book.

Barbara Perucca – Non voglio ammettere che ti amo  – Edizioni Helicon

Thanks again to you all.

Advice welcome

Also feel free to ask me advice

Take care

 

Barbara

 

 

 

EQUALITY

I apologize for my absence here, but you know what is the political situation now in Italy: a shame. And also because of this I felt the need to write you now this post.

I have a question for everyone: WHAT IS REAL EQUALITY?

The world still needs to truly know and put in practice this word for real worldwide.

Because there is no real democracy if there is no real equality. And what is real equality? It is the real equality of each person in front of the law. The law the same for everyone with no discriminations man or women, gay or transgender, Muslim, Catholic, Jewish … No discriminations at all, of any kind.

We all should be equal in front of the law as it is stated for instance in our Constitution, with no discrimination of religion, sex, sexual orientation, color of the skin …

But unfortunately we are facing two different realities on the planet.

Here in Italy, where these principles are stated but sometimes not applied and put in practice by people. We are facing an horrific increase of crimes with racial involvements. When the only race for everyone is human race, but some people, due also to our new government fear campaign, are now not respecting this basic principle of real equality of human beings. So some people have been assaulted, and we had also death episodes in the past, just because of the color of the skin or ethnicity. The scandal raised also in Europe watching our country going more and more extremist and far right in decisions, also not to receive the boats with immigrants that were risking their lives in the sea … And we are responsible of so many lives lost in the Mediterrenean if we could have been able not to give this immigrations in the hands of the mafia, but creating real human corridors, for people to come legally here and have the assistance they deserve because they are running away from war, persecution, starvation … The solution would never be just to send these people back because migrations have always been part of human history and cannot be stopped.

And the second reality I am talking about is in those places on earth where real equality is not respected by the states themselves and by their laws. Where because of religion discriminations people are not given jobs, where because women they are not paid the same as men, where because of sexual orientation people are discriminated, and even jailed or killed in some states of the planet.

I mean where is real equality?

Does it matter if a person has a different skin color, or worships a different religion, or falls in love with another human being maybe of the same sex?

Does this influence laws or how people are or should be treated?

Yes. Unfortunately people in 2018 worldwide are still discriminated for the color of their skin, for their religion, for their sexual orientation.

With no respect for real equality.

It is so sad. And the fault of all this?

Who encourages discriminations and hate, and mainly the lack of culture and education.

Yes, because studying the world history we would discover that there is no elected people, everyone is the same to one another because we all descend from the same ancestors coming back from what was before one single continent.

We would discover that Jesus had dark skin.

We would have discovered omosexuality has always existed, in all society and you cannot stop what is not a personal choice but a peculiarity of the person, not a free choice, but a way of being. And actually it exists also in nature in the natural life in the animals world.

Also animals, if you see them, they attack when they feel in danger. Human beings are the only ones who are able of evil behaviors just for the sake of it. So for no reason discriminations and attacks to who is different just because of differences, and not even because of real dangers.

People think of immigrations as invasions: they are not. Even states are conventions. Borders are a human creation. But everyone is building walls starting from their inner soul.

Why in 2018 the world is not able to have people living in peace together? Money and power.

And above all, why we are not able to live in real equality in all laws and relationships?

The answer is always the same: money, power. There are so many interests in these behaviors.

When a population is in economical difficulities, it is easier to find a target, an enemy to be accused of all disgraces. Like it was for the Jewish in the Second World War. They were also rich, and they were just an obstacle for more money and more power in the minds of all those sick people who got involved in one of the biggest shames of the planet history.

So fear. I guess fear is the reason why people are not able to accept and put in practice real equality principles. Weakness. Not enough self esteem to accept confrontations.

But the real strenght is in the peace of mind of being themselves. Thinking with their own head. Being free in the soul even before than in the body.

But it is easier for all dictatorships to controll the masses with just orders, they do not have to think with their own mind. Keeping people obiedient because of fear so that they will never complain or try to change things.

Making people fighting with each other not to see bigger issues above or aroud them. It is always a distraction.

When in the world people will start to realize that is not a matter of a war between people who are right and people who are wrong, and there is no necessity to change anyone because we all should be accepted for who we are. Confrontations, opinions should be free. People are afraid of opinions because maybe they can make people realize things from different point of view. And people maybe can change their opinions.

Only God is perfect. We are human, and no one can say to be perfect or to have the real Truth about everything.

And when people will stop to feel superior to the others or just right and the others wrong. When we will put aside judgments. Then we will be truly able to start a real genuine peaceful cohexistence where we can all learn and enrich ourselves from each other.

The world is beautiful because of its variety. Colors. We cannot put people into boxes to define them. Each individual is unique and in its uniqueness needs to be respected and should always have the same rights and duties as all the others.

Let’s make this planet a better world.

Let’s stop the judgment and the sentences. People should be free to be themselves, always. And real justice is when people are really never ever discriminated or treated differently: man or women, gay or straight, Muslim or Jewish or whatever …

People are not a short list of labels. We are human beings, each of us in evolution.

We grow, we change, we think, we change our opinions, we learn.

But this is possible only if we listen, if we try to understand what is different from us, we try to think things from different points of view, we ask questions.

Cogito ergo sum. Only because of our thinking we are. Not animals, not passive, but alive with a soul that seeks nourishment in the beauties of the planet and in everyone who crosses our path or has left messages to the world.

We have not been made to be alone. And the planet is a sphere with no corners.

Martin Luther King was saying that if we do not learn to live like brothers, we will all perish like fools. It is so true, in the madness of all wars and all discriminations people are facing for all possible reasons.

Let’s start to consider ourselves for real all brothers, with no better or worse, with no right or wrong, just differences.

Respect for everyone. Everyone is a person who deserves respect. We all deserve shaken hands and a real hug. Because we are all one and only one big family called Planet earth.

All the best to everyone and please also here in Italy we need now a help to fight these racists xenophobic, omophobic, islamophobic and all the phobics of the world, to fight them back with the simplicity of the message of the pure true love for each other and every human being on earth, with the principle, that should not remain just a principle but the essence of each society, of true equality.

 

See you next

Thanks for reading me

Take care you all

Barbara

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dress your skin

Hi everyone!

As I wrote you in the last post, here in Italy the political elections campaign is quite tough. We have elections on the 4th of March. ( I am member of the PD party).

The risk is also from the far right, which is in a huge coalition group, defending the “white race”. Such an absurdity when we all should remind ourselves that only one is the exisiting race: the human race!

So I would like you to shine, whatever is your skin color or shade of color!

Because this website is about fashion, so do your own fashion! Be yourself! You are amazing! All colors are beautiful God’s creation. And it is not an addition of pigmentation in the skin that should make us be looked in a bad way.

To be honest with you some days I wish I were born in a dark skin. I am really suffering all these discrimiations and hate spread in these days against immigrants who have a dark skin color. (still people praising a crazy nazi who shot six innocents a couple of weeks ago) just for the color of their skin. Now he is in jail but still people are not all condemning him but justifiying saying it is because there are too many immigrants … crazy speeches)

I have posted on Facebook a picture of myself when I was not even 18, I am sharing with you here as well.

no al razzismo

I was in a language studying trip. Education is the basis to understand world differencies but also similarites that make us anyway all brothers and sisters. There are more things that unite us than separate us. Humanity is mankind. Why discrimination? We are all human beings with same dignity and value.

Did Martin Luther King die for nothing?

A couple of days ago we had the nephew of Nelson Mandela in my home town, Florence. We built a cell-like space. To remind us where Mandela lived for 18 years. In a small cell because of his color of the skin and his battle for human rights.

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We have been the only city in Italy to give Nelson Mandela honour citizenship and also we gave his name to one of our most important buildings where we make concerts and events.

I would like you worldwide to spread this message that is Mandela’s and Martin Luther King’s: stop the hate, but not with more hate, but with love and education.

Only light can send away darkness. These are Martin Luther King words I agree about 1000%.

We need to avoid the risk here in Italy that the far right coalition wins.

Also they want to withdraw from Europe, to isolate … madness.

And nobody can stop people from moving to one country to another, especially when these people are just looking for a better future and are escaping from sure death. We need to remember our humanity. People want to send them away, but away where?

As a union, in Europe we are finding and we need to find solutions here in Europe and also in Africa where they escape from. So, far right parties do not have to win.

Till not long time ago, Salvini (the Lega party leader) was blaming South Italy people, and saying that people from Naples smell badly. Now he is doing the same with immigrants: discriminating.

Italy is just one country and people are forgetting his hate for the South of our country. Now he has shifted his intolerance and hate towards the “strangers”. Totally unacceptable.

I do hope people will use their heart and mind when voting on the 4th of March.

We need it, to move on, as we did with this legislation and this just finished government. We managed to go out from the economical crysis we had fell into. And now we are growing again, we are moving forward and we do not need someone to bring us back to past times with Berlusconi, to be forgotten.

Thanks for reading me once more.

March approaching quickly and lots of tensions around. We need to stop this spread fear and hate aroud.

Colors are the beauty of life!

A big hug to everyone, because no one ever should feel discriminated especially for the color of the skin.

Thanks again for reading me

you all guys take good care of yourself

See you soon

Barbara

 

 

 

Dress with honesty

Dear readers,

here I am again.

In a grey, rainy day here in Florence, Italy.

We are living in a quite delicate moment in history. Lots of things, mostly bad, happening around the globe.

And I just would like to make a sad comparison between my country Italy, and US.

Yes, because we are having political elections on the 4th of March 2018, and I do not want to see happening the same thing that American people have faced in United States with Trump election.

Yes. The situation is not too different for some aspects.

We have elections for the parliament and the other chamber, in Italy we have two different chambers, and a quite complicated legislation system: laws need to pass first in one chamber, then in the other one before complete approval.

And on the 4th of March also, the party who will get more seats will be also in charge of forming the new government that will be in charge for another 5 years deciding the direction of our country not only for inner regulations but also concerning our position in Europe and in the world with the international global market and decisions.

It is very scary.

Because we just face here a rise back of Fascism, yes, you heard well, people who miss those horrible years of our history, when we were allied of the Nazi.

Fortunately not everyone. And we managed in the past to get the Republic and a true democracy and freedom, with loss of lives to defend people rights and principles of equality, free press, free speech. But now it seems it was done for nothing because people want to lose all that and miss the dictatorship.

I think the news of what is happening here in these days are spread worldwide.

Breafly.

There is a huge hate spread around due to immigration and fear spread with fake news of invasions from African countries. Actually in total here arrived in these last years just the 0,83% of our population, so not an invasion at all! But far right parties have spoken of threat for security and so on.

Saying 600.000 people, while in reality the numbers are much lower, around 400.000 spread in years, so as I said for a total of 0,83% of our population.

And generally speaking in Italy we have an average of 8% of “strangers” in our population, it means living here people also coming from European countries, which is not a huge number after all. And personally I am in favour of anyone. I have lived myself 4 years in London and more than one year in Paris and no one has ever really discriminated me for working there, for being manager of a shop, or directing a whole supermarket department … Here in Italy there are now crazy people who even think that immigrants steal jobs! Madness!

Also these racists far right extremists also do not consider that there is a huge difference between immigrants and people who are born here, live here, study and grow here, have family here, will live here. And still we haven’t been able to make a law been approved about them, the so called Ius Solis, which is for giving citizenship to the people who are actually Italian because speak Italian, live here, are born here, or arrived here when little, study here, work here, have family here, friends, and want a future here. It is very unfair that these persons who are Italian, are not recognized yet as Italian citizens and have to wait till when 18 years old for long burocracy procedures to obtain the citizenship.

Going back to the recent news.

A girl was found dead, chopped and put in two suitcases. She was drug addicted. A Nigerian illegal immigrant was found guilty of hiding the body. Still not sure about what happened. But the spread of hate was so huge that a member of the far right Lega (Salvini leader) party decided to take a car, a gun, and go around the city where this happened (Macerata city) and shot 6 innocent people just because they had black colored skin.

The problem is that the political party of Salvini did not fire this person, who now is in jail, they did not completely condemned it but justified him and people praised him, saying that there are too many immigrants. And this is so awful.

This is very serious. We are having a true threat to our democracy, to the costitutional principles of human equality and we cannot accept discriminations of any kind and this hate spread is just madness.

Reading the news there are lots of more Italian persons involved in horrible murders and facts like rapes and so on than immigrants, but in this climate of elections, these crazy far right fascists racists just think all the fault has to be found in immigration.

So I wrote this article for everyone to help us spread a true message of democracy and equality principles. I do not want a Mr Trump like to be elected here, to start deportations of immigrants, and to praize white people! We are all the same. Skin color does not define a person!

Also there is something very bad happened: that crazy guy also shot our party building in that city (Macerata), and what’s more, there is a hacker who entered yesterday in our political party of Florence (The Partito Democratico, PD, of Florence), and they put on the web all the names of our members, so even mine, with sensible data like the address and phone numbers.

They want to threat democracy. They want to win elections on fear. This is not a fair way to do political campaigns.

And also there are so many fake news spread around.

There is another political party that is quite scary the Movimento 5 stelle, where there is Luigi Di Maio leader who is just a mask. It is a private society. So here as well, no democracy! A private society that controls the party in the name of Davide Casaleggio, the owner of the society. So not a party where citizens are free in decisions or democratically organised. This man, Davide Casaleggio controls everything. People will pay 300 euros each. It has a web platform called Rousseau where they made people vote for the leader Luigi Di Maio, but actually it was not a secret vote, as it should be. Because of the platform, Davide Casaleggio can track every voter, even months after it remains the track. So where is democracy if citizens have no real privacy of vote? And the party is not like ours, democratically organised. It is a private society! Also Davide Casaleggio lied about it and actually about his position. They also create lots of fake news and spread them on social networks. They lie to people. They have put in the lists a man who was caught dancing with the Spada clan, mafia people! And the people of their party who are in charge now of cities like Rome and Turin just show the incapability of governament.

Just some last conclusions.

We as a party, PD, Partito Democratico, believe in honesty.

This elections campaign is not made in the name of honesty by other parites. And with hate spread and insults and continous fake news also about our party!

There is the risk for our economy, they want to go out of the European Union. There is a huge risk for democracy and people rights and equality.

And hate is huge. People shout and incourage fear and spread fake news about everything.

Thanks for reading me.

I would need all your moral support.

It is a very tough time and I really do not want to face the same horror America is facing with Trump elections.

The far right, Berlusconi party (who is together with Salvini), they have in their program a law that will make poor people and rich ones pay the same taxes! (flat tax) completely unfair and not constitutional! It is like Trump cutting rich people taxes.

We must stop all this before it is too late!

Thanks again to you all.

Take care

Barbara

 

Dress GREEN

Hi everyone …

Sorry for my silence.

Days are flying. And I am still unemployed, struggling to get known with my novel … It is all a long way, an up hill climb.

A few days ago, I was lucky to had the chance to see live a very important person, Vandana Shiva.

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She is Idian, she is a physicist, an activist for all what concerns environment in India. She did big battles against giants like Monsanto who are trying to sell their seeds in Indian fields, and spread their seeds instead of local ones, bringing milions of farmers to committ suicide because market is completely changed then, prices of seeds so high, crops paid ridicolously low, and people are not able to survive. And then you drink happily your coke and eat those cheap chips, not knowing that the price of 10 rupies was what had been paid for many chilos of potatoes. Unacceptable.

And the water! There was, she told us, a village a bit hidden, where women, 100 women went on strike because the giant Coca Cola producer was simply stealing their water to make the so loved sparkling drink, leaving the people of the village completely with no water!

Mentality has to change in terms of respect of people and environement.

And the culture of super cheap is just ruining everyone. Things have a cost. Where are they made? How? At which price?

Every time we go shopping at the supermarket, she asked, do we care what we buy? How it is produced? Where it comes from?

We all should go in the direction of a more aware shopping. Quality and especially respect for human work and environment.

She is the voice of millions of people, against big giants who just see profits, who do not care of how to get more money, they just want more money, more production at lower cost, no matter the quality, no matter the respect for Nature, no matter human beings.

And also she was explaining that most cancers of course come from eating rubbish and “plastic” food and drinks.

We have to go back to an harmony with mother Nature, otherwise, in a cathastrophic but realistic forecast, the future of the planet is our extintion.

And I add, we can start from ourselves, at home, also recycling and separating plastic and glass from paper, organic residues … We have different containers where we can recycle. If we all could really do it, every day.

I think about the seas which are covered in floating plastics. Fishes eat plastic. And then of course we will eat fish and we will eat plastic as well!

You need to be careful also about some products like body scrubs: it is very important to check that they are not made with little plastic particles.

So I hope with this article to have a bit inspired you. We all need to go in the direction of care for our little planet.

Recycling and an aware shopping are good starting points.

And despite someone saying that there is no real “climate change”, we all must be conscious that we actually are responsible for the future of our planet.

So let’s all start from little gestures, but let us be more aware of our mother Nature and its beauties that we do not have to polute and destroy, because we are here, and we all belong to our mother earth.

Take care you all

All the best

2018 committments

2018! Happy New Year to everyone!

This post is not about me, it is about you!

What are your committments for this, just begun, 2018? Which are your goals?

We have to start from ourselves!

And first goal is to be happy! Truly happy!

And the first thing we should be happy about is ourselves! Yes. Because everything starts with us. If we are not happy about ourselves, how can we think that something external to us, could make us happy?

So we must first love ourselves, and be happy of who we are.

And we must start this with accepting our true self.

Stop pretending to be who we are not! And simply accepting who we are.

No more inner conflicts! No condemnations or heavy judgments!

So let’s start from the past.

The past is past. Sounds quite an obvious statement, but actually it is not that obvious, because we still make our past weight and be a burden for our present and our life now! So let’s start to forgive ourselves for our past.

We can begin 2018 with the hope to manage to fix all that we did wrong last year, but what cannot be changed and fixed, we just have to let it go! Move on! Past is dead. Consequences of the past remain, and this is the only thing we have to deal with, but we cannot change what has already happened! We can do something new, but not cancel what is done! So leave it!

So 2018 we must stop stressing ourselves about our past mistakes!

We learn from our mistakes, they are our best teachers! But we live in the present. So let’s focus on the “now”.

Changement

We must love ourselves, so if there is something about ourselves that we are not happy with, we simply have to change it! Stop complaining and overthinking! Nothing is permanent! We must improve. Let’s do it! Move on! Do something! If we really want something we have to start working for it! Looking at the ceiling doing nothing, will not change anything!

So let’s go out from social networks, Let’s live for real! And let’s make the changes we are dreaming about!

What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror every morning?

Every day is a new card we have been given to play, and live.

If we want a new start, a refreshment, why not trying for instance a different hair cut? Hair color?

Make-up. We should take care of ourselves and love that image we see in the mirror. Make up is a gesture of love towards ourselves. We do not have to look “beautiful” for someone else, but for ourselves. And it will improve your self exteem too. So try! Not too much make-up. Day time you cannot look like going to a glitter disco party or dark heavy metal concert! So be sober! And remember care of our external look, but without a smiling inner soul in peace, every outfit would be wrong. But we have both external and internal side, so we must take care also of our body and our look!

Diet. What an ugly word! Nobody should be on diet! We should be caring and loving ourselves and our bodies too! So listen to what our body truly needs. There should be a balanced and healthy relationship with food! We need food to be alive as we need liquids to be hydrated. And now I do not want to make you a lecture on vitamins, carbohydrates … But you all know that we need fruit and vegetables for vitamines, carbohydrates for energy of long term release (sugars are not good because of the high glycemic index), we need proteins for muscles and also iron for carrying oxygen in our blood stream …

So limit the rubbish staff! The sugars! Once in a while you can, but daily eat healthy!

And then the main thing is quantity!

Do you eat slowly? Do you put your food in smaller plates to trick your mind about how much you are eating? Do you eat without watching telly or doing something else? yes because we need to eat slowly! We will feel fuller sooner. We need to trick the mind convincing also our inner self that we will not be starving! Very wrong to eat on sofa watching movies or anything because this way is a compulsive eating with no real mind monitoring on real quantities taken …

There are lots of little changes we should do. Drink enough water during the day to fight liquid retentions! Do not skip meals, but even little, we should always eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.

But above all, the most important thing to do is sport! Not going to play at the olympics but is enough a walk, a run, swimming, gym … whatever you like but just movement!

Once I read an article saying that airplains are not meant to stay on the ground, and actually they get “rust” and deteriorate quicker if they are kept on the ground insteat of being used flying in the skies. Same for us! We need to keep active! And doing any kind of sport activity releases “happiness” signals to our body. Sport makes us produce and release endorphins! We do not need drugs! Try it! After, you will feel relaxed but also with a bunch of additional energy to spend! Also the mind gets recharged, and can then focus back better on issues. Also metabolisms increases! So stop doing nothing! Even cleaning the house is a movement! Do something! Especially if it is a sunny day, go out for a walk!

So if the issue with your happiness is your body shape or weight, start doing a little thing every day!

Since I have been in India on vacation, I have started some yoga exercises every morning. Just breathing things, simple ones. But every little helps.

And if alone you are not brave enough to move: involve someone else for a walk, a run, a tennis game, going to the swimming pool … anything!

Then clothes

Quite a tricky subject. It depends on occasions, mood, what fits you the better …

Let’s say that we all must be feeling comfortable in what we are wearing. So we can then forget what we are wearing and concentrate on living!

A perfect teraphy for happiness is colors therapy. I already wrote it here in another article, so I will not repeat myself. Just that if you want to cheer up, use bright colors! The world is beautiful and full of colors! So wear colors!

All this I wrote till now is mainly about your “external side”.

For what concerns about your inner side, your soul … Try to make a real peace treaty with yourself.

Write down a to do list. Think about where would you like to get, what would you like to achieve. And start to work on what’s necessary to shorten the distance between where you are and where you would like to be. And remember Rome wasn’t built in a day! But start doing something in the direction of your dreams! Do not give up! Life is one, and “if you can dream it, you can do it!” Walt Disney

Attitude

Be positive! Always! Even if something goes wrong, just trust the journey! Things happen for a reason. Do not give up! “The darkest hour is always the one before the dawn!”Cohelo. And go on smiling!

Positivity is contageous, and the more you share it, the more it comes back to you!

You are alive! Remember this!

Try to treat everyone with kindness. Remember Ghandi. The strenght is in the calmness.

And if you start to put yourself in harmony with the others and the universe, the universe itself will help you moving in the direction of your dreams.

Will is everything, will is power.

And do not focus on what has not been achieved yet, but see what you have done already! you are moving in the right direction! And if there is no way in front of you, it maybe a turn in the street, but keep walking. If a door does not open, maybe it is not your door, or maybe it is not supposed to be opened now! Have faith! And keep moving forward!

And above all thoughts remember you are never alone. God is next to you, always. Trust Him!

Best of luck to you all, in all your battles and struggles.

And I wish you the best 2018! With happiness, results, satisfactions …

And remember happiness is not meant to be celebrated alone!

Share it! Do not keep it for yourself! Spread it around!

You all deserve it, and if someone truly loves you, your happiness is their happiness and the same in reverse! Learn to share your emotions! Be alive! We are not cold machines. We are here to share! And giving to the others, even if it is just i.e. our time, we will find a pure joy of the heart that goes beyond everything. Do not expect anything back. Just give. Love.

Life is short. Start to be positive and happy now! Happy for who you are, what you have, who is close to you, who you love and who loves you.

Remember nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes, what makes the difference is our attitude, and what we do, before, after … Take actions! Speak! Ask for forgivness, forgive and forget! Move on! Let it go! Focus on the positive always, and improve. We all must. In this short journey called life where we are asked to walk next to each other supporting, caring, being.

All the best

Take care of yourself you all

See you next

 

Barbara